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Mission: Educate adults and children in basic social skills, history of etiquette, formal introductions and invitations, entertaining and dining out guidelines, Continental and American style principles, dining with difficult foods, choosing appropriate attire, communication skills, thank-you notes, other useful etiquette techniques, and Victorian Afternoon Tea.

Saturday, October 13, 2018

Northwest Tea Festival in Seattle

I gave a speech at the Northwest Tea Festival in Seattle and a couple of days later I received the nicest letter from Debbie and Tracy.  They took my class at the festival and sent me:


How thoughtful!


NEW ONLINE TEA ETIQUETTE TRAINING AVAILABLE!

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

  Authored Books:                
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com



Friday, April 6, 2018

Polite Society School of Etiquette - "Manners"

"Manners"




Handshaking - The Ultimate GreetingShaking hands creates a favorable impression and influences others to do the same.  The handshake is important because it is the accepted greeting in almost all countries. Always shake hands when: introduced to a person and when you say goodbye, when someone comes into your office to see you, when you meet someone outside your office or home, when you enter a room, when you leave a gathering, when you congratulate someone who has won an award or given a speech, and when you are consoling someone.  Hand shaking is not exclusively for males.  Women, too, are encouraged to offer their hand when an introduction is made.  A firm but not overpowering handshake is usually a good idea.  Be especially careful of how much pressure you exert if you are shaking hands with an elderly person or if you are wearing heavy rings which might bruise, but be sure your handshake is both firm and brief.  Count to three and let go.

Say Hello to the hostess before you accept any drink.

Taking Your Seat At The Table:  Men and women are expected to enter and sit in a chair from their left sides. This prevents bumping the neighbor when seating.  The exception is when the chairs are too close to enter from the side and must be pulled out to sit.  Exit the chair the same way you entered.  Do not forget to push the chair back in when you leave.  A gentleman should seat a lady by standing behind her chair and pulling it back with both hands.  When she is half-seated, the chair should gently be pushed forward so that her chair is under her hips.  After seating her, the gentleman takes the seat to her left.  Good posture is important; do not slouch.  Put your back against the back of your chair.  Whenever possible, pushsleeves up above the elbows before eating.

NOTE:  Men are seated to the left of the woman so as to have their right hand available to assist the woman.

Sit Up Straight.  Push your back against the back of the chair.

Push Sweateror sleeves up above elbow before eating.

Rest Your Wrists On The Table.  No elbows on the table.

Your Space At The Table:  Your spaceshould be confined to the imaginary box around you.  If you must move your feet, do so in your own foot space (close to the floor and within the chair legs).  If you are not eating, your hands should be on your lap or on the table right in front of you.  While you are eating, try to put your non-eating hand on your lap.  If you must rest your hands on the table, do so with your wrists only.  Place your wrists in front of you on the edge of the table.  Do not put your elbows on the table.

Purses, Briefcases, Eyeglasses, And Eyeglass Cases:  Do not place any item on the table.  A small purse should go on your lap, under the napkin. A large purse, briefcase, and other personal items should go under your chair, out of the way.  Never block the path of other guests or the serving staff. An eyeglass case belongs in your purse or pocket.  Never put your eyeglasses on the table.  Your cell phone should be set to vibrate or switched off and put away.  It is extremely rude to make or accept a phone call (or text) during a meal.

Lavatory:  Women go to the “powder room” and men go to “freshen up.”

Proper Way To Leave A Dinner Party:  The general rule for leaving a dinner party is approximately forty-five minutes after dinner is over.



NEW ONLINE TEA ETIQUETTE TRAINING AVAILABLE!

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

             Authored Books:                
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com




Sunday, March 18, 2018

Polite Society School - "Manners"

Manners
"You have been invited to someone's home for dinner"


What to do??

Be Fashionably On Time:  Arrive at a formal dinner party thirty minutes before dinner.  At a less formal event, the general rule today is to arrive no earlier than twenty minutes before dinner.  Gifts are not expected unless it is a birthday or a celebration of some sort.  You may bring a special bottle of vintage port, champagne, or sparkling cider.  Never suggest or mention that your wine be served.  The host or hostess has decided which wines should accompany his or her menu. 

Flowers should not be given to the hostess because she or the staff will be too preoccupied to arrange them.  The flowers, like the wine, have already been chosen.  Instead, it is thoughtful to call the hostess several days before the dinner to say you would like to send her flowers in advance and ask what are a few of her favorites as well as her preference in color.

Make An Entrance:  Almost everyone watches the entrance of a room.  Enter the room with good posture.  Do not rush into the room, even if you are late.  Do not slouch.  Do not speak loudly or expect everyone to stop what they are doing and greet you.  Rather, look for the honoree, the host, or the hostess and greet them politely while complimenting the hostess on some item of décor, her costume, etc.  It is true you only get one chance to make a first impression; be careful that your impression is a good one.  Always be sure to greet the host or hostess before you accept a drink.

NOTE:  Shoes off at the front door can be done very comfortably by providing slip-ons for indoor use or shoe covers.  You can put a basket by the door filled with surgical booties.  Also have a bench or chair nearby so guests can sit down and either take their shoes off, put slip-ons on, or put booties over their shoes.

Remove Gloves:  Remove your gloves before you shake a person’s hand.  Unless there is a reason not to, it is best to remove your gloves as soon as you arrive at an event.


NOTE:  Gloves are often thought of as something born of the Napoleonic era.  In fact, they’ve been worn for over 10,000 years.  Of course, the earliest uses were not for fashion but more utilitarian in purpose.  Gloves protected one’s hands from harsh weather or hard labor.  Even thousands of years ago, they were not worn during dinner service.  This is understandable when you consider that until the 1600s, food was traditionally eaten with fingers.


More coming soon...


NEW ONLINE TEA ETIQUETTE TRAINING AVAILABLE!

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

             Authored Books:                
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com










Thursday, March 8, 2018

Thank-You Notes...

THANK-YOU NOTES

The ultimate purpose of Writing Thank-you Notes is to offer a great deal of insight into when you should send a thank-you note.

A thank-you note is a written message to show appreciation for something someone has given you or done for you.  There are an endless number of daily situations in which a thank-you note would be unexpected, but deeply appreciated.  Let your conscience be your guide.

Someone has done something nice for you, whether it was giving a thoughtful gift, preparing a nice dinner, or lending a hand when you moved, and you would like to say "Thank You."  Thank you for thinking of me, thank you for your help, thank you for being my friend, thank you for your extravagance, thank you for making my favorite dish, thank you for entertaining me - well, you get the idea!

Writing a thank-you note makes a connection and brings a relationship full circle.  It may seem like a simple thing, and it is, but it is often the simple things that make life worthwhile.



NEW ONLINE TEA ETIQUETTE TRAINING AVAILABLE!

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

             Authored Books:                
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com



Thursday, February 8, 2018

Nina's - A French Teahouse with Royal Charm

Marie-Antoinette

NINA'S  is a very famous teahouse in Paris.  Tea Time Magazine devoted an article about this popular tourist attraction.  The website is beautiful - http://www.ninasparis.com



This luxury tea salon resides along the Seine River, the Louvre, the Jardin des Tuileries, and Le Palais Royal.  With a history that dates back more than three centuries, Nina's of Paris offers tea drinkers an exclusive and royal experience in each cup.

The intertwined history of Nina's with the famous French royal started in 1672, when the company - originally called La Distillerie Frères - started producing essential lavender oil fragrances.  Eventually, it became renowned for the ability to craft and create different aromas, and its distinguished reputation made its products very popular with King Louis XIV, the Court of Versailles, and Marie Antoinette.  Over the years, the company transitioned to infuse its popular aromas into a line of uniquely blended teas still sold today.

One aspect that makes Nina's blends truly one-of-a-kind is the source of ingredients integrated in their teas.  In keeping with their ties to the royal court, Nina's has an exclusive partnership with the King's Kitchen Garden at Versailles.  The company continues to use and incorporate fresh fruits and flowers from the garden in its teas and jams.

Instead of serving a traditional three-course afternoon-tea service, Nin's French Royal Tea echoes Marie Antoinette's famous words, "Let them eat cake!"  Guests enjoy a pot of Nina's Original Marie-Antoinette Tea with a slice of the tearoom's Marie Antoinette cake, which incorporates the same rose and apple flavors found in the signature tea.

This decadent treat, along with a pot of tea, makes for a refreshing cake break for tourists in need of a brief idyll from a day of sightseeing...






NEW ONLINE TEA ETIQUETTE TRAINING AVAILABLE!

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

             Authored Books:                
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com