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Polite Society School of Étiquette offers Beginning, Advanced, Business, and Tea Étiquette Courses. Étiquette tutelage is presented at speaking engagements, webinars, school seminars, private dinners, and specialty tea events. The School's mission is to educate adults and children in customary codes of conduct with an emphasis on everyday social graces.

Friday, December 25, 2015

Last four Seasonal Essentials!

12 Seasonal Essentials

THE FESTIVE SCENTS #9
THE QUEEN'S SPEECH #10
THE NATIVITY #11
THE CAROLS #12
Christmas simply would not be Christmas 
without these traditional accompaniments.

#9 - THE FESTIVE SCENTS
Of all our senses, it is our sense of smell that is believed to be the most powerful in activating memories of bygone times.  Little wonder, then, that many enjoy filling their homes with the scents of past childhood Christmases.  From generation to generation, we pass down a tradition of using clove-studded oranges, bundles of cinnamon, eucalyptus and the fresh smell of pine to set a magical olfactory ambience.

#10 - THE QUEEN'S SPEECH
On Christmas Day, people across the land stop their activities to tune into HM The Queen's traditional annual message to her subjects.  The time was chosen because in 1932 when King George V began the tradition, this was deemed to be the best time to reach most of the countries in the Empire live by shortwave radio from the transmitters in Britain.  Today, the speech is pre-recorded and shown on television, but the importance of tuning in remains as strong as ever for most.

#11 - THE NATIVITY
As a charming re-enactment of the birth of Christ, this event reminds everyone of the origins of this most important of Christian celebrations.  Earnest children dressed in makeshift costumes stumble through memorized lines, whilst adults hold their breath to catch every word, and parents smile or even shed a tear of pride.

#12 - THE CAROLS
Lilting lyrics are sung with gusto from door to door, around the piano or in church at Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve.  The compositions bring people together in musical nostalgia, and everyone has their favorite carol, be it We Three Kings, God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen or Silent Night.




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Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas.

Tuesday, December 22, 2015

THE PUDDING

12 Seasonal Essentials

THE PUDDING - #8
Christmas simply would not be Christmas 
without these traditional accompaniments.

This rich concoction of alcohol-soaked dried fruits, citrus peel, nuts, suet and spices has long been the grand finale to the Christmas feast.  Home-made on Stir-up Sunday (the last Sunday before Advent), the pudding often conceals a silver coin (traditionally a sixpence), which is said to endow good fortune upon the diner who finds it within their portion.  The pudding is usually doused with brandy, whisky or rum, which is set alight to create a flaming spectacle before serving.




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Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas.

Sunday, December 20, 2015

THE MULLED WINE

12 Seasonal Essentials

THE MULLED WINE - #7
Christmas simply would not be Christmas 
without these traditional accompaniments.

Many of the comforting, warming drinks that our ancestors would have known have fallen out of favor.  As author Jane Strutters reveals in The Book of Christmas, winter was the time of great experimentation with hot drinks from Bishop to Posset to Het Pint, which are rarely known today.  


Yet mulled wine continues to be served.  We are intrigued to try a fabulous recipe and the advice is to use a good quality wine when making it.  And don't forget to top with a little freshly-grated nutmeg!

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Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas.

Saturday, December 19, 2015

Polite Society School of Etiquette: THE GIVING OF PRESENTS

Polite Society School of Etiquette: THE GIVING OF PRESENTS: 12 Seasonal Essentials THE GIVING OF PRESENTS - #6 Christmas simply would not be Christmas  without these traditional accompaniment...

THE GIVING OF PRESENTS

12 Seasonal Essentials

THE GIVING OF PRESENTS - #6
Christmas simply would not be Christmas 
without these traditional accompaniments.

To give is more pleasurable than to receive, our grandparents would often say.  For many, this still holds true, at Christmas in particular.


Despite concerns of commercialization, it is the thoughtful and the hand-made and the time-consumingly sourced presents that still warm hearts the most - echoing, too, the giving of gold, frankincense and myrrh.  In England these offerings are more correctly known as presents, whereas in American it is referred to as gifts.  

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Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas.

Friday, December 18, 2015

THE LAVISH FEAST - 12 Seasonal Essentials

12 Seasonal Essentials

THE LAVISH FEAST - #5
Christmas simply would not be Christmas 
without these traditional accompaniments.

Christmas dinner is really little more than an expansion on a tradional Sunday roast, yet certain key extras elevate the meal into a ritual of expectation that everyone relishes.


A golden turkey replaced roast goose as the preferred centerpiece during Victorian times and sausage meat, chestnut stuffing, bread sauce, cranberry sauce, sprouts and 'pigs in blankets' (chipolatas wrapped in bacon) are the usual accompaniments.  Pulling crackers and wearing paper crowns whilst eating is an unwritten rule in many households - the hats, once an emblem of the three kings, have now become a symbol of the British need to not take themselves too seriously.

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Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas.

Wednesday, December 16, 2015

12 Seasonal Essentials

12 Seasonal Essentials

12 Seasonal Essentials - #4
Christmas simply would not be Christmas 
without these traditional accompaniments.

Centuries of homeowners have eaten mince pies - although not to the current popular recipes.


Originally, as the name suggests, the filling comprised meat (often mutton), which was heavily seasoned and spiced, whilst the pie itself was large and served multiple people rather than being baked as individual pies.  By the nineteenth century, Mrs. Beeton offered two recipes for mincemeat - one with meat, the other without.  The latter variety stayed the course, and we continue to eat fruit-filled mini pies today, but crucially these still retain the three important spices - cinnamon, cloves and nutmeg - thought to be a reminder of the three gifts of the wise men.

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Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas.

Friday, December 11, 2015

12 Seasonal Essentials

12 Seasonal Essentials

12 Seasonal Essentials - #3
Christmas simply would not be Christmas 
without these traditional accompaniments

In pre-Christian times, homeowners garlanded their homes during mid winter with evergreen foliage and wreaths of green as a reminder of the cyclical nature of the seasons and the eventual return of spring.


Today, we continue to adorn our front doors with wreaths, although more creative homeowners use circles of evergreen foliage around glass-encased candles on sideboards and tables or create a kissing ring to hang from the ceiling.

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Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas.

Friday, December 4, 2015

12 Seasonal Essentials

12 Seasonal Essentials - #2
Christmas simply would not be Christmas 
without these traditional accompaniments




Twas the night before Christmas, Clement Clarke Moore's much loved poem, published in 1822, may not have invented the concept of hanging up a Christmas stocking, but it undoubtedly popularized the idea in America and Britain.  His often quoted words perfectly encapsulate and enforce the magical view both children and adults continue to hold of the very special visitor that arrives to deliver presents every Christmas Eve.  In some homes stockings are hung by the chimney 'with care,' in others, a bedpost is the traditional hanging place.  Even though there are some who ambitiously leave out a pillowcase or a sack for gifts, today, the stocking remains our most beloved choice.

From English Home Magazine





Wednesday, December 2, 2015

12 Seasonal Essentials for a Traditional Christmas

1 - THE CHRISTMAS TREE


Glimpsed through the windows of many a home across the festive period, the twinkling charms of a spruce or fir tree resplendently dressed with lights and baubles is a sight to behold.  Taking pride of place in either a grand hall or a prominent corner of the sitting room, the Christmas tree has provided a focal point for family gatherings across the nation since Victorian times.  One spends hours choosing the perfect size and shape, adorning it with decorations, tantalizingly piling presents beneath it and, or course, topping it with a star or angel to remind us of the very first Christmas so long ago.

Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Whole Wheat and Berry Bread Pudding along with dining etiquette

WHOLE WHEAT AND BERRY BREAD PUDDING

Tastes best with all organic ingredients!

Ingredients

Butter, room temperature
4 eggs
3/4 cup whole milk
3/4 cup heavy cream
1 tablespoon vanilla extract
1 teaspoon lemon zest

4 large slices whole wheat bread

4 cups of mixed berries 
(blueberries, strawberries, raspberries, blackberries)

currants
walnuts
coconut
rolled oats

Directions

Butter 8 small ramekins

In a medium bowl, whisk together eggs, milk, cream, vanilla extract, and lemon zest.  Let settle until air bubbles on the surface are gone.

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

Tear bread into medium-size pieces using your hands.  
Add to custard mixture and toss to combine.

Equally divide the berries among the ramekins.  
Sprinkle currants and walnuts over berries.

Top with the bread mixture gently pressing down so they are packed evenly.

Sprinkle rolled oats and coconut over bread mixture.

Refrigerate for 15 minutes.

Bake for 25 minutes.

Drizzle with maple syrup and sprinkle powdered sugar.
(This is the only sugar in the recipe)  


Dining Etiquette for Bread Pudding

Family Place Setting




Follow this family place setting as your guide,
set your table with a service plate, napkin & spoon.  
Place ramekin on service plate.

Dining instructions:  Scoop the pudding with the teaspoon from side to side moving from the right to the left side.

The rest position for the spoon is in the ramekin and finished position for the spoon is on the plate.




Enjoy!

NORTHWEST TEA FESTIVAL - OCTOBER 3 & 4

Come visit us
- October 3rd & 4th 2015 -
Be a part of our celebration of the exciting world of tea. 



The Northwest Tea Festival is a fun and educational event about the multifaceted world of tea.  Our goal is to provide experiences covering all aspects of tea, from the cultural to the historical and the sensory to the scientific.

Wednesday, August 5, 2015

POST FROM MY NEW TEA ETIQUETTE BOOK!



The Art Of Afternoon Tea
The 1800s gave birth to the quaint and charming ritual of “Afternoon Tea” in England. It was an always hungry
Anna, the Duchess of Bedford, who started the craze. She ate in the manner of the time (a hearty breakfast, a
light lunch and nothing in between until a very fashionably late supper). Understandably wishing for something
more in the afternoon hours, she asked her servants to bring some light fare, along with hot tea and serve it to her
in her private quarters. After a while, she invited close friends to join her and share her new afternoon custom.
Word spread throughout the country and “Afternoon Tea” became a major component to English daily life.

Styles Of Tea
Outlined below are some forms of enjoying this favorite beverage.

High Tea In the p ast High Tea was considered the tea of the working class rather than the tea of the elite.
This tea was a hearty affair. Meat pies, Welsh rarebit, Shepherd’s pies, slices of roast, sausage, vegetables, casseroles,
puddings, and heavy desserts and other dinnertime staples usually made with leftovers were commonly
served. The term “High” came about because the tea meal was taken at a high dining table, or with high back
chairs all around a table. This was to distinguish the meal from the Afternoon Tea that was taken at low tables.
In recent years, High Tea has become a term for elaborate Afternoon Tea, though this is an American usage and
mainly unrecognized in Britain. It is usually served between 5:00 PM and 8:00 PM.

NOTE: High Tea is sometimes confused with the teas that King Edward VII hosted during his reign from 1901-1910.  The King, it seems, had so many meals in his daily schedule he had to change everyone else’s schedules also. Dinnertime was pushed forward another hour or so to 8:30 PM or 9:00 PM so that High Tea could now be held even later in the afternoon, bringing it to what most Americans think of as dinnertime around 5:00 PM or later. Known for his huge appetite, the King ate no less than 12 courses at dinner and is responsible for adding “appetizers” to the dinner menus of British society.

Formal Afternoon Tea Formal Afternoon Tea is an elaborate affair with white linens, silver, hats and gloves,
bone china, and several different types of tea. Darjeeling and Ceylon varieties are suggested for this teatime. Tea
fare consists of scones, at least four varieties of savories, and beautiful fi nger desserts or petits fours presented
on three-tiered racks often buffet style. Traditional service time is 4:00 PM, however any time between 2:00 PM
and 5:00 PM is appropriate.

Afternoon Tea Or Low Tea Afternoon Tea or Low Tea is designed to enhance social skills and usually is
served in fi ne fashion and in several courses. The term “Low Tea” may come from the fact that hotels have traditionally
used low tables in their lobbies to hold the foods and tea service presented at afternoon teas. This full
tea service includes scones, savories, and a variety of petits fours, and is traditionally served at 4:00 PM, however
any time between 2:00 PM and 5:00 PM is appropriate.

Special Event Or Seasonal Tea This tea is designed for the season, occasion, or personal style for the hostess
or honored guest. Although this tea requires planning, it also provides an opportunity for creativity in themes,
menus, table settings, favors and invitations. Examples include bridal teas, sweetheart teas, Christmas teas, harvest
teas, baby shower teas, business teas, retirement teas, graduation teas, garden teas, and benefi t teas.

Cream Tea Cream Tea basically is an afternoon sweet-tooth tea that features a heavy clotted cream from
Devonshire. The term “cream” applies to the clotted cream rather than putting cream in the tea. Cream is too
rich to accompany tea as it will curdle; milk is the preferred addition. Besides scones, this tea includes fresh fruits,
berries in season, and cake. Cream Tea is traditionally served from 1:00 PM to 4:00 PM.

Brunch Tea Brunch Tea is a hearty tea to start one’s day with a warm egg dish, fresh fruit, or pasties
light on sugar content. This is the perfect time to seek a hearty breakfast tea since the traditional time is from
10:00 AM to 1:00 PM.

Teddy Bear Tea This special tea, really hot chocolate, was prepared by nannies for their young charges. The
children would scurry off to their quarters to play with their favorite dolls or bears and sip hot chocolate while
munching on goodies from the adults’ tea table.

The “Elevenses” The term “Elevenses” came from the British and was their version of the American offi ce
coffee break between ten and eleven in the morning. In Britain, a tea cart with tea, crumpets, scones, or cinnamon
toast was wheeled in for the break.

NOTERemember one drinks tea (one does not take tea). During the Victorian era, the term to take tea was used
by the lower classes and considered a vulgar expression by the upper classes.

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Friday, July 17, 2015

THE ART AND PROPER ETIQUETTE OF AFTERNOON TEA IS READY AND AVAILBLE IN SOFTCOVER AND EBOOK FORMATS!


Book Details:
After many many hours of hard work, I bring to you the best tea etiquette book.  It is full of pictures and diagrams for instructional purposes.  
ENJOY!

Saturday, March 28, 2015

EMMA The Etiquette Cat Manner's Plate and EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma Book Gift Set


Polite Society School of Etiquette presents a beautiful porcelain plate and book gift set:  EMMA The Etiquette Cat Manner’s Plate with accompanying EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma Book.

Enchanting Emma Elizabeth is an adorable Ragdoll feline.  She is about two years old and is the sweetest kitty cat.  Mischievous and loving with an abundance of curiosity, Emma fancies herself as a well-behaved kitty and her daily quest is to please her mum.  Children will instantly fall in love with Emma as they try to emulate her good manners. 

The classically handcrafted 8” porcelain ivory EMMA Plate is a child’s etiquette plate with inscriptions reading:  Thank you…Please…Pardon me…& May I.  These inscriptions will assist all children in keeping good manners while enjoying their meals.  The delightful center scene is inspired by Emma as she sits quietly by the window sill.  Her appealing look is richly accented with perfect color tones.  

The EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma Book is beautifully written and illustrated.  This children’s book is for very young children up to ten years old.  Children will see Emma play and sometimes get into a bit of trouble.  They will also see how her mum forgives her and gently corrects her.  The book is illustrated by the noted Whidbey Island artist, Gaylen Whiteman, who has captured Emma's bright blue eyes and her gorgeous furry coat.

The book also includes a fabulous healthy English Scone Recipe, a Mock Devonshire Cream Recipe, and a Blackberry Fruit Spread Recipe for parents to make with their children along with a short explanation of the word "etiquette," a child's place setting illustration, and a family-style place setting illustration.

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta, founder of the Polite Society School of Etiquette, created this impressive gift set which includes a plate and a book.  It is beautifully wrapped in a white box with white tissue paper folded and held together with a gold label.  Whether you purchase this for gifting or for that special someone in your home, this gift set will brighten any child’s day and will assist all children in fostering good manners.  Handcrafted in the USA and personally autographed by Bernadette, this gift set will create memories that will last forever.  The porcelain plate is oven, microwave, and dishwasher safe.  EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma is the third book in Ms. Petrotta’s Etiquette Series following Volume I, The Art of the Social Graces, and Volume II, The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea.


AVAILABLE ON AMAZON APRIL 1, 2015!!