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Polite Society School of Étiquette offers Beginning, Advanced, Business, and Tea Étiquette Courses. Étiquette tutelage is presented at speaking engagements, webinars, school seminars, private dinners, and specialty tea events. The School's mission is to educate adults and children in customary codes of conduct with an emphasis on everyday social graces.

Wednesday, December 1, 2021

STEMWARE DEFINITIONS FOR THE HOLIDAYS!

Be ready for the holidays!


Below is a short explanation about the different types of stemware. 


Stemware is a general term used to refer to drinkware that has some type of stem.  Stem styles vary in length and girth.  There are many variations and designs of stemware.  Each style is unique and serves a multitude of purposes.

 

Goblet  This is the largest piece of stemware; it holds from nine to twelve fluid ounces.  It is always used for water in formal dining, but at an informal dinner, its use is optional.

 

Red Wine  Today, with the exception of Waterford, most formal patterns offer just one size of red wine glasses.  Burgundy and Bordeaux have their own special stemware.  An all-purpose wine glass will have a rounded bowl that tapers slightly toward the rim to contain the wine’s bouquet.

 

White Wine  A white wine glass has a bowl that is smaller than red, and the sides are a little straighter because white wine does not have as intense an aroma as red.  Never fill more than half of a stemware in order to concentrate on the wine’s more delicate bouquet.

 

Hock Wine  These are white wines from the Rhine Valley and are named for their growing area, Hockenheim.  Initially, Hock wines were served in stemware with a colored bowl to hide the wine’s cloudiness, but today these wines are no longer cloudy.  Queen Victoria, whose ancestors on her mother’s side were from the house of Saxony Cobert, introduced Hock wines to England.  Rhine wines are served in long-stemmed glasses with small squared-off bowls.  These are often not available as part of a regular stemware pattern.

 

Champagne  The most common shape available today is the flute which has a long, narrow bowl to preserve the effervescence of the bubbles.  It has supplanted the traditional saucer champagne, which has a shallow wide bowl, letting bubbles escape too quickly to today’s tastes.  In the past, a gentleman always carried his own swizzle stick which he used to take out the bubbles—not make more.

 

Cocktail  Strictly speaking, a cocktail glass should not be included in a formal stemware grouping; cocktails are never served at the formal dining table.  

 

Cordial  There are many different after-dinner drinks, and almost every single one has its own special glass.  Cordial glasses are never flared because the cordial’s aroma must be contained in the glass so the drinker can savor it.  These glasses have very small bowls because liqueurs are very concentrated and only a small amount is taken.

 

Sherry  The one apéritif that is still used at a formal table is the sherry glass to accompany the soup course.  Today, it is rarely available in stemware patterns but is sold as a specialty glass.  

 


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Bernadette M. Petrotta
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Polite Society School of Étiquette

Friday, October 22, 2021

Tips on Serving Tea

 Tips on Serving Tea


*  Serve the tea in the following ways:  plain, with cream (usually when the word “cream” is used, it really means milk), with sugar, with cream and sugar, with lemon, with lemon and sugar, with honey, or with honey and cream.

 

*  Never serve cream and lemon together in tea.  The citric acid of the lemon will cause the cream to curdle.

 

*  If a guest requests lemon, pour the guest a cup of tea and place the lemon slice in the cup.  If the guest desires another cup of tea, remove the used slice of lemon.  As hostess, pour another cup of tea for the guest and place another lemon slice in the cup.

 

*  Used lemon slices are placed on a separate saucer, not on the teacup saucer.  Never use a teaspoon to press the lemon slice after it is placed in a cup.  Untouched, the oil from the peel and the fruit will provide the desired essence.


*  Sugar is served in the form of cubes for neatness.




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Wednesday, September 29, 2021

Lifelong Manners...

 Lifelong Manners

Learn to write a thank-you note.

Learn how to introduce yourself.

Learn how to address people (Ex. never call an adult by his/her first name unless instructed to do so).

Learn how to answer the telephone correctly.

Learn all of this and more in my newest book!   See below.


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Bernadette M. Petrotta
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Wednesday, September 22, 2021

Lifelong Manners to live by...

 The top étiquette lessons to live by.


Please chew with your mouth closed.

Do not interrupt anyone when they are speaking.

Do not tell anyone about their appearance unless it is nice.

more coming...


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Sunday, September 19, 2021

Always show respect and kindness to everyone around you...

Some basic étiquette rules to live by...


Make an effort to say please, thank you, and excuse me everyday.

Learn how to utilize your silverware and napkin correctly.

Do not put your elbows on the table...


more to come....




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Bernadette M. Petrotta
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Monday, August 23, 2021

Proper way to drink Tea

Once you are served tea, you may pick up your cup of tea by grasping with you thumb and index finger.  Contrary to popular belief, the pinkie should never be held upright, which is considered rude.  Finally, tea is sipped, not gulped, and the cup is returned to the saucer between sips.



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Tuesday, July 13, 2021

Canapé - Where did this word come from?

 TIMES GONE BY....


The term canapé comes from the French word for "couch."  This makes sense if you look at the garnish as a person, sitting on a couch!   I love this explanation!

Nonetheless, it is expected that a canapé be salty or spicy, as its job as an appetizer is to increase the guests' appetites.


more interesting facts coming....


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Saturday, July 3, 2021

Mrs. Beeton's Book of Household Management (1861)

Isabella Beeton

The 1861 Classic with Advice on Cooking, Cleaning, Childrearing, Entertaining, and More!

As my biography says, I worked for the City of Los Angeles for 30 years.  I loved my job, but the job I felt most happy with was my job at home.  I loved creating a beautiful home and I just adored raising my son.  I was very fortunate that I was able to take many years off work and I even worked part time during my City years.  I can tell anyone who might wonder which job was the hardest!  The stay at home was the hardest and the most rewarding - I truly was the "Commander of my Home" as Mrs. Beeton says in her book.  

From Mrs. Beeton - As with the commander of an army, or the leader of any enterprise, so is it with the mistress of a house.  Her spirit will be seen through the whole establishment; and just in proportion as she performs her duties intelligently and thoroughly.  Of all those acquirements, which more particularly belong to the feminine character, there are none which take a higher rank than such as enter into a knowledge of household duties; for on these are perpetually dependent the happiness, comfort, and well-being of a family.

More to come on my next post.... 


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Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Étiquette

 


 

Monday, May 17, 2021

Handshaking - The Ultimate Greeting


Brief History of Handshaking



Handshaking—The Ultimate Greeting Shaking hands creates a favorable impression and influences others to do the same. The handshake is important because it is the accepted greeting in almost all countries. Always shake hands when: introduced to a person and when you say goodbye, when someone comes into your office to see you, when you meet someone outside your office or home, when you enter a room, when you leave a gathering, when you congratulate someone who has won an award or given a speech, and when you are consoling someone. Be sure to make eye contact. Smile while shaking someone’s hand. Smiling triggers positive endorphins. A firm but not overpowering handshake is usually a good idea. Be especially careful how much pressure you exert if you are shaking hands with an elderly person or if you are wearing heavy rings that might bruise. Be sure your handshake is both firm and brief. Count to three and let go. Also, use your right hand even if you are left-handed because most people are right-handed.

Always stand when shaking hands and never shake hands over a barrier (desk, etc.). In America, people usually shake hands with two shakes.

Historically, gentlemen would frequently carry swords since they could never be quite sure who their friends were. When engaging in combat, they would unsheathe their weapons using their right hand as the sword was carried in a scabbard on their left hip. Therefore, when meeting someone they considered a friend, they would show that they meant no harm by presenting their right hand away from the left hip, palm open, to confirm they were not holding a weapon.


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Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Étiquette

 




Thursday, February 25, 2021

EASY ENTERTAINING



Entertaining is one of the greatest gifts bestowed upon people while creating memorable events for family and friends. It is a time for enjoying cherished friends, introducing family members to old friends, and creating an atmosphere that is warm and welcoming. One of the most welcoming aspects of entertaining is to create a beautiful table that will add brilliance and peacefulness to a meal. Mixing antique collections with contemporary pieces adds drama and a sense of the unexpected whether setting a formal, an informal, or a family table setting.

Hopefully, this chapter will inspire hosts and hostesses to entertain and also inspire guests to be entertained in the most elegant fashion. Above all, graciousness should be the most outstanding characteristic for all.

The first step to entertaining begins with sending out invitations. Invitations are very important and should be designed or purchased to fit the occasion. There is a lot of flexibility and variation to style, paper, color, and wording. There is also proper protocol for addressing individuals.

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Bernadette M. Petrotta
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Sunday, January 10, 2021

Classic Style Buffet Dining

From: The Art of Timeless Étiquette, Graceful Dining Manners, & Afternoon Tea


Classic Style Buffet Dining Buffet means “sideboard” in French. Basically, the word buffet has more than one meaning. In one sense it is a piece of furniture used for placing food upon. Another meaning for the word buffet is a variety of cold and hot savory dishes. In classic style buffet dining, the host or hostess should place the food courses on the buffet along with dinner plates, flatware, stemware, and napkins. Dinner plates are placed on the opposite side of flatware, stemware, and napkins. The food courses are placed in the middle of the buffet. The host or hostess may help serve their guests, or guests may serve themselves. Ladies are served first. As soon as the guests are served or have served themselves from the buffet, they should find a comfortable place to sit and eat. Guests do not need to wait for everyone to be served in order to begin eating. The host and hostess serve themselves last.

Flowers, candles, or other decorations may be placed on the buffet provided there is sufficient room.

Coffee, tea, liqueurs, stemware, cups, and saucers along with dessert plates and dessert utensils are placed on a separate table. An additional table should be included for used plates.


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Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Étiquette