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Polite Society School of Étiquette offers a thoughtfully curated collection of courses designed to cultivate grace, confidence, and impeccable poise.
The following courses are offered.
Beginning Étiquette Course — An introduction to the essential principles of etiquette, gracious manners, and confident social interaction.
Afternoon Tea Étiquette Course — An elegant exploration of afternoon tea traditions, tea-table etiquette, and the art of hosting and participating in this cherished ritual.
Protocol, Decorum, & Savoir-Faire Course — A study of refined conduct, formal protocol, and the discernment required to navigate social and professional settings with confidence.
The Story of Tea Course — A captivating journey through the history, culture, and traditions of tea, celebrating its enduring influence on societies around the world.
Étiquette tutelage is also offered through speaking engagements, instructional webinars, school seminars, private dinners, and specialty tea events.
The School's mission is to educate both adults and children in the traditional principles of etiquette and the essential social skills needed for everyday life. The curriculum encompasses the history of etiquette, social graces, dining etiquette, proper table settings, appropriate attire, protocol, decorum, and other valuable etiquette practices. Students also learn the art and essentials of preparing and serving a proper Afternoon Tea.
Polite Society School of Étiquette provides students with the knowledge and skills to navigate the expectations of society with grace, poise, and confidence, empowering them to feel comfortable and self-assured in any social situation.
All courses include foods and beverages as teaching aids.
Interactive online training courses are available.
Saturday, July 26, 2014
Friday, April 25, 2014
Sugar in Jane Austin's time.....
Sugar in the 18 century (Jane Austin’s time) was kept
locked up because it was very expensive. It was sold
in many grades, from the highly refined, pure white
sugar that only the well off could afford, down to the
darkest of brown sugars used by the poor.
Granulated sugar had been only recently invented
and was not yet widely available. Sugar was molded
into large, cone-shaped loaves weighing several
pounds each that had to be broken up or grated
before the sugar could be used. Sugar cubes would
not be invented until 1843 – if people wanted sugar
for tea, they had to first break it into irregular lumps
with special tools called “sugar nippers,” from
which practices comes the traditional question “One
lump or two?”
Monday, April 7, 2014
English-style tea....
English-style tea places the loose leaves in a pot, then
pours the brewed tea through a tea strainer into a teacup.
Be warned: The second cup of tea may be over brewed and
bitter.
Tuesday, April 1, 2014
Dining With Teacups and Saucers
When sipping tea, coffee, or other liquid from a cup, lift the cup and take a gentle sip
without making any noise. The handled cup is held with your index finger through the
handle, your thumb just above it to support your grip, and your second finger below the
handle for added security. Your little finger follows the curve of your other fingers and is
not elevated in an affected manner. If the cup and saucer are more than twelve inches
away from you, lift the cup and saucer together to take a sip. Be careful not to drop the
teaspoon off the saucer. You may place the cup and saucer back on the table in between
sips. Using a clock as in the picture below, the rest and finished position of the teaspoon
is 5 o’clock on the saucer with spoon bowl facing up. The cup handle is also placed in
the 5 o’clock position.
Rest Position And Finished Position For A Teacup And Teaspoon
Monday, March 31, 2014
Polite Society School of Etiquette: A SIP OF SERENITY
Polite Society School of Etiquette: A SIP OF SERENITY: Most contemporary herbal blends mix plants deemed beneficial with tasty flavorings. The following ingredients, which promote relaxation or ...
A SIP OF SERENITY
Most contemporary herbal blends mix plants deemed beneficial with tasty flavorings. The following ingredients, which promote relaxation or digestion, have various potencies, and should be enjoyed in moderation.
ALFALFA, good for what ails
CHAMOMILE, the queen of contentment
LAVENDER, a scented calmer
LEMON VERBENA, flavorful, settles the nerves
LINDEN FLOWER, woodsy and soothing, Europe's favorite
MINTS, friends of digestion
PASSION FLOWER, sweet and soothing
ST. JOHN'S WORT, counteracts the blues
From: Victoria Magazine - The Pleasures of Tea
I, of course, love many tisanes. One of my favorites is from the Perennial Tea Room in Seattle, Washington. The name of this fabulous tisane is Toasted Almond. It is made from apples, almonds, cinnamon and beetroot.
Definition of "tisane" - any beverage made from the infusion of herbs, spices, or other plant material in hot water, and does not contain caffeine. These drinks are distinguished from caffeinated true teas, which are from cured leaves of the tea plant, Camellia sinensis.
ALFALFA, good for what ails
CHAMOMILE, the queen of contentment
LAVENDER, a scented calmer
LEMON VERBENA, flavorful, settles the nerves
LINDEN FLOWER, woodsy and soothing, Europe's favorite
MINTS, friends of digestion
PASSION FLOWER, sweet and soothing
ST. JOHN'S WORT, counteracts the blues
From: Victoria Magazine - The Pleasures of Tea
I, of course, love many tisanes. One of my favorites is from the Perennial Tea Room in Seattle, Washington. The name of this fabulous tisane is Toasted Almond. It is made from apples, almonds, cinnamon and beetroot.
Definition of "tisane" - any beverage made from the infusion of herbs, spices, or other plant material in hot water, and does not contain caffeine. These drinks are distinguished from caffeinated true teas, which are from cured leaves of the tea plant, Camellia sinensis.
EMMA ELIZABETH ENJOYING TEA WITH HER MUM.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
Victorian Afternoon Tea
Brief History
An old legend credits the
Chinese Emperor Shen Nung in the 28th century B.C. with the discovery of tea. As the story is told, the health conscious
emperor knew that boiling water before drinking seemed to protect people from
disease. He always insisted on having
his water boiled and that simple precaution led to a wonderful revelation. One day while touring the provinces, the
emperor stopped for a rest with his entourage. Servants gathered branches from a nearby
evergreen bush to build a fire for boiling the emperor’s water. A passing wind blew leaves from the bush into
the boiling pot and soon a delightful aroma issued forth. Intrigued, the emperor quickly sipped a bit of
the infusion. He immediately declared
that the refreshing brew must have medicinal qualities and ordered his servants
to gather leaves from the bush to take back to the palace.
News of the emperor’s discovery spread quickly
throughout the provinces. Soon everyone
in China was drinking tea and the infusion of that evergreen plant quickly
became an important part of the Chinese culture. Over the centuries, the knowledge and
appreciation of tea gradually spread to other parts of the Orient.
After hundreds of years,
tea arrived in England and by 1660 tea was flowing everywhere on the island. One Samuel Pepys, renowned 17th century
diarist, noted in 1660 that he had his very first “cup of tee of which I had
never drunk before.” In 1662, when
England’s King Charles II married Portugal’s Princess Catherine of Braganza,
part of her dowry was a chest of tea. It
was this queen’s love for tea and her influence on the royal court that influenced
the spread of the “new drink.” Tea
merchants were soon offering tea as an elixir for just about anything that
ailed anyone. It was first served in
public coffeehouses and in outdoor “tea gardens” then increasingly in homes.
Around 1650, Dutch ships
carrying the new drink to the Dutch colony of New Amsterdam introduced it to
the American colonies. It took another
twenty years for the rest of the colonies to become acquainted with tea, though
no one really had any idea of how to use it properly. Americans would let the tea brew and stew for
hours, creating a dark bitter drink. They
also salted and ate the used leaves on buttered bread. It wasn’t until 1674, when the British took
over New Amsterdam and renamed it New York, that the custom of tea drinking as
we now know it began.
Tea was enjoyed in the American Colonies until
the late 18th century. But when King
George III decided to use tea as a source of revenue, and raised the import tax
on tea sent to the Colonies, the independent-minded Americans rebelled. In 1773 the colonists dressed as Native
Americans and dumped a shipload of tea into the Boston Harbor. This event became known as the Boston Tea
Party and was one of many that propelled the colonies toward independence and
probably indirectly led to a marked preference for coffee in the United States.
Around 1840, the custom of
afternoon tea began in England and is credited to one of Queen Victoria’s
ladies-in-waiting, Anna Maria Stanhope, known as the Duchess of Bedford. In England at the time, people ate a heavy
breakfast, a late dinner, and very little in between. Toward mid afternoon the Duchess routinely
experienced a “sinking feeling” which she remedied by dining in her boudoir
with tea, cakes, tarts, and biscuits. Others
soon followed the Duchess’ lead and in a few decades the custom of “taking tea”
in the afternoon became well established. At first the practice was limited to the upper
classes, but it eventually became so popular that tea shops and tearooms began
opening for the enjoyment of the general public. This elegant custom became greatly popularized
during the height of the Victorian Era making “teatime” a regular pastime of
the proper English Lady.
By the late 19th century, teatime had acquired
its’ own formal etiquette. Tea services
were made of silver or china. Fine
linens were used for tea cloths and serviettes (table napkins). Tea gowns were loose and flowing with matching
hats and gloves. The tea itself was
imported from India or Ceylon (now Sri Lanka), colonies of the British Empire.
With the tea came decorated platters of savories (dainty finger sandwiches),
scones with jams or homemade preserves and clotted cream, toast with cinnamon,
petits fours (small cakes cut from pound or sponge cakes and frosted), and
other delicacies that came to be known as “tea food.” In working class homes, afternoon tea became a
much heartier affair with cold meats, cheeses, and breads. This evening meal was called “high tea” and
often replaced dinner.
The United States can claim
two distinct contributions when it comes to tea, both dating from the 20th
century. In 1904, visitors to the Louisiana
Purchase Exposition in St. Louis sweltered in a heat wave and shunned the hot
brew offered by Indian tea growers. An
Englishman named Richard Blechynden, who represented the tea growers,
experimented with pouring the tea over ice in order to entice fair visitors. The result was a success. Iced tea now accounts for 80 percent of the
tea drunk in the United States. The
second contribution is the tea bag, the brainstorm of an American tea merchant
named Thomas Sullivan, who hit on the idea of providing samples to his
customers in small silk pouches or “a tea leaf holder.” Sullivan’s customers
soon discovered that the pouches could be put directly in teapots. Orders soon came pouring in for the tea
packaged in those little bags and Sullivan patented his brainstorm.
Nearly five thousand years have gone by since
Emperor Shen Nung sipped the first cup of tea on that Chinese roadside and
almost two centuries have elapsed since the Duchess of Bedford first thought of
tea and cakes to carry her through until dinnertime. So much time, yet some things do grow better
with age. Tea can be enjoyed today with
a sense of history and a sense of kinship with those who made significant
contributions to the development of this lovely pastime.
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