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Polite Society School of Étiquette offers a thoughtfully curated collection of courses designed to cultivate grace, confidence, and impeccable poise. The following courses are offered. Beginning Étiquette Course — An introduction to the essential principles of etiquette, gracious manners, and confident social interaction. Afternoon Tea Étiquette Course — An elegant exploration of afternoon tea traditions, tea-table etiquette, and the art of hosting and participating in this cherished ritual. Protocol, Decorum, & Savoir-Faire Course — A study of refined conduct, formal protocol, and the discernment required to navigate social and professional settings with confidence. The Story of Tea Course — A captivating journey through the history, culture, and traditions of tea, celebrating its enduring influence on societies around the world. Étiquette tutelage is also offered through speaking engagements, instructional webinars, school seminars, private dinners, and specialty tea events. The School's mission is to educate both adults and children in the traditional principles of etiquette and the essential social skills needed for everyday life. The curriculum encompasses the history of etiquette, social graces, dining etiquette, proper table settings, appropriate attire, protocol, decorum, and other valuable etiquette practices. Students also learn the art and essentials of preparing and serving a proper Afternoon Tea. Polite Society School of Étiquette provides students with the knowledge and skills to navigate the expectations of society with grace, poise, and confidence, empowering them to feel comfortable and self-assured in any social situation. All courses include foods and beverages as teaching aids. Interactive online training courses are available.

Friday, December 1, 2017

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS



The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

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Preparing gifts for their recipients is as enjoyable as the thought that goes into their selection.  Setting aside an afternoon or evening to do so may feel like an extravagance at a time of year when days are short and diaries are full, but the rewards are plentiful.

Wrapping paper aside, attention to detail is everything when it comes to finishing touches.  Banded grosgrain ribbon and stitched border trims offer a classic touch when adorned with glass baubles and natural foliage, whilst silver-and-white tones provide a tasteful palette for experimentation.  Traditionalists may prefer velvet ribbons in Victorian hues.

There is always a pleasing familiarity to be had in winding natural twine around thick brown paper parcels, and attaching springs of holly and dried orange rounds.  


MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

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Monday, March 13, 2017

Polite Society School of Etiquette

Polite Society School of Etiquette


The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea

Excerpt from book:



Victorian Afternoon Tea
Brief History




An old legend credits the Chinese Emperor Shen Nung in the 28th century B.C. with the discovery of tea.  As the story is told, the health conscious emperor knew that boiling water before drinking seemed to protect people from disease.  He always insisted on having his water boiled and that simple precaution led to a wonderful revelation.  One day while touring the provinces, the emperor stopped for a rest with his entourage.  Servants gathered branches from a nearby evergreen bush to build a fire for boiling the emperor’s water.  A passing wind blew leaves from the bush into the boiling pot and soon a delightful aroma issued forth.  Intrigued, the emperor quickly sipped a bit of the infusion.  He immediately declared that the refreshing brew must have medicinal qualities and ordered his servants to gather leaves from the bush to take back to the palace.

News of the emperor’s discovery spread quickly throughout the provinces.  Soon everyone in China was drinking tea and the infusion of that evergreen plant quickly became an important part of the Chinese culture.  Over the centuries, the knowledge and appreciation of tea gradually spread to other parts of the Orient.

After hundreds of years, tea arrived in England and by 1660 tea was flowing everywhere on the island.  One Samuel Pepys, renowned 17th century diarist, noted in 1660 that he had his very first “cup of tee of which I had never drunk before.”  In 1662, when England’s King Charles II married Portugal’s Princess Catherine of Braganza, part of her dowry was a chest of tea.  It was this queen’s love for tea and her influence on the royal court that influ­enced the spread of the “new drink.”  Tea merchants were soon offering tea as an elixir for just about anything that ailed anyone.  It was first served in public coffeehouses and in outdoor “tea gardens” then increasingly in homes.

Around 1650, Dutch ships carrying the new drink to the Dutch colony of New Amsterdam introduced it to the American colonies.  It took another twenty years for the rest of the colonies to become acquainted with tea, though no one really had any idea of how to use it properly.  Americans would let the tea brew and stew for hours, creating a dark bitter drink.  They also salted and ate the used leaves on buttered bread.  It wasn’t until 1674, when the British took over New Amsterdam and renamed it New York, that the custom of tea drinking as we now know it began.

Tea was enjoyed in the American Colonies until the late 18th century.  But when King George III decided to use tea as a source of revenue, and raised the import tax on tea sent to the Colonies, the independent-minded Americans rebelled.  In 1773 the colonists dressed as Native Americans and dumped a shipload of tea into the Boston Harbor.  This event became known as the Boston Tea Party and was one of many that propelled the colonies toward independence and probably indirectly led to a marked preference for coffee in the United States.

Around 1840, the custom of afternoon tea began in England and is credited to one of Queen Victoria’s ladies-in-waiting, Anna Maria Stanhope, known as the Duchess of Bedford.  In England at the time, people ate a heavy breakfast, a late dinner, and very little in between.  Toward mid afternoon the Duchess routinely experienced a “sinking feeling” which she remedied by dining in her boudoir with tea, cakes, tarts, and biscuits.  Others soon followed the Duchess’ lead and in a few decades the custom of “taking tea” in the afternoon became well established.  At first the practice was limited to the upper classes, but it eventually became so popular that tea shops and tearooms began opening for the enjoyment of the general public.  This elegant custom became greatly popularized during the height of the Victorian Era making “teatime” a regular pastime of the proper English Lady.

By the late 19th century, teatime had acquired its’ own formal etiquette.  Tea services were made of silver or china.  Fine linens were used for tea cloths and serviettes (table napkins).  Tea gowns were loose and flowing with matching hats and gloves.  The tea itself was imported from India or Ceylon (now Sri Lanka), colonies of the British Empire. With the tea came decorated platters of savories (dainty finger sandwiches), scones with jams or homemade preserves and clotted cream, toast with cinnamon, petits fours (small cakes cut from pound or sponge cakes and frosted), and other delicacies that came to be known as “tea food.”  In working class homes, afternoon tea became a much heartier affair with cold meats, cheeses, and breads.  This evening meal was called “high tea” and often replaced dinner.

The United States can claim two distinct contributions when it comes to tea, both dating from the 20th century.  In 1904, visitors to the Louisiana Purchase Exposition in St. Louis sweltered in a heat wave and shunned the hot brew offered by Indian tea growers.  An Englishman named Richard Blechynden, who represented the tea growers, experimented with pouring the tea over ice in order to entice fair visitors.  The result was a success.  Iced tea now accounts for 80 percent of the tea drunk in the United States.  The second contribution is the tea bag, the brainstorm of an American tea merchant named Thomas Sullivan, who hit on the idea of providing samples to his customers in small silk pouches or “a tea leaf holder.” Sullivan’s customers soon discovered that the pouches could be put directly in teapots.  Orders soon came pouring in for the tea packaged in those little bags and Sullivan patented his brainstorm.

Nearly five thousand years have gone by since Emperor Shen Nung sipped the first cup of tea on that Chinese roadside and almost two centuries have elapsed since the Duchess of Bedford first thought of tea and cakes to carry her through until dinnertime.  So much time, yet some things do grow better with age.  Tea can be enjoyed today with a sense of history and a sense of kinship with those who made significant contributions to the development of this lovely pastime.






Enjoy!

Saturday, January 14, 2017

Rustic Pumpkin Bread Recipe

RUSTIC PUMPKIN BREAD RECIPE

ENJOY WITH A CUP OF YOUR FAVORITE TEA


Happy 2017!

Here's to eating healthy in the new year!

Enjoy this recipe with all healthy ingredients.  You can eliminate the sugar content or just add less.


All ingredients are organic.

1 cup sugar
 l/2 cup honey (optional)  (or l/4 cup honey)
1 can (15 oz.) solid-pack pumpkin
1 cup olive oil
4 large eggs
2/3 cups water
3 l/2 cups all-purpose flour (I used 2 cups whole wheat & 1 l/2 cups all-purpose - sifted)
2 tsp. baking soda
1 tsp. salt
1 tsp. ground cinnamon
1 tsp. ground nutmeg
l/2 tsp. ground cloves
1 cup chopped pecans 

* I added some flaxseeds (about 1/3 cup)

Topping     (I doubled the entire topping recipe, but only used about 80 percent of the  mixture)

l/3 cup all-purpose flour
l/4 cup packed brown sugar
l/2 tsp. ground cinnamon
2 Tbsp. cold butter
l/4 cup chopped pecans

Directions

1. In a large bowl, beat the sugar, pumpkin, oil, eggs and water until blended.  In a large bowl, combine the flour, baking soda, salt, cinnamon, nutmeg and cloves; gradually beat into pumpkin mixture until blended.  Stir in pecans.  Let set for 20 minutes.

2. Pour into two greased 9 x 5-inch loaf pans.  For topping, in a small bowl combine the flour, brown sugar and cinnamon, cut in butter until mixture resembles coarse crumbs.  Stir in pecans.  Sprinkle over batter.

3. Bake at 350 degrees for 60-65 minutes or until a toothpick inserted in center comes out clean.  Cool loaves for 10 minutes before removing from pans to wire racks.



Note:  If honey is added, add another 10-15 minutes on cooking time.

From Polite Society School of Etiquette

Happy baking....

Until next time,

Bernadette M. Petrotta

Monday, December 19, 2016

ENGLISH TRADITIONS AT CHRISTMAS!

ENGLISH TRADITIONS AT CHRISTMAS!

ENGLISH TRADITIONS AT CHRISTMAS!

NORTHERN FESTIVITIES



As church bells ring out across the land on Christmas Eve, the doughty citizens of Dewsbury in West Yorkshire brace themselves...  Local knight Sir Thomas de Soothill paid for a new tenor bell for the church in 1434 - now Dewsbury Minster - to atone for his sins, and the practice of tolling the Devil's Knell on Christmas Eve began - one toll for each year of the Christian era, to proclaim the defeat of evil and forgiveness of all sins.  That makes 2,016 tolls this year, finishing exactly on the stroke of midnight.  "We do allow visitors (in the minster bell tower), but they must not distract the ringing or counting," says the tower captain, Derek Johnstone.

On Christmas Day in Yorkshire, Lancashire and Derbyshire, after tackling the turkey, foggy pudding and mince pies, the custom is to pair a chunk of zesty cheese with Christmas cake to cut through its fruity richness.

ENJOY!

MERRY CHIRSTMAS!

THANK YOU ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE

FROM BERNADETTE

Saturday, November 26, 2016

ENGLISH TRADITIONS AT CHRISTMAS!

ENGLISH TRADITIONS AT CHRISTMAS

CORNISH CUSTOM



Visit a home in Cornwass and you may well find a Christmas Bunch hanging from the ceiling - two hoops of greenery, looped together and decorated with ribbon, fruit and possibly a candle, plus mistletoe to set lips aquiver.  'Nadelik' - Cornish for Christmas - is full of such quirks.

"The use of Cornish recipes at Christmas has increased hugely in the last ten years, especially Mahogany," says Simon Reed, director of the Cornish Culture Association.  Mahogany is made from warmed treacle and gin, and can be dangerously moreish.  Cornish Shenagrum will bring colour to the cheeks, too.  This drink consists of warmed dark beer sweetened by two spoons of demerara sugar, fortified with rum and topped with a twist of lemon and some cinnamon.

For the peckish, there is Stargazy Pie, which was created in the fishing village of Mousehole in honour of a brave fisherman called Tom Bawcock.  Legend has it that he sailed out into a violent stormy sea to fish when the village was facing starvation.  He returned with seven types of fish which were made into a pie and shared amongst the townsfolk, thus saving them from famine.  To this day his heroic deeds are celebrated every 23 December in the village.  Made with potato, egg and pilchards, their heads poking through the crust, the pie has the potential to alarm unwary diners.

Montol - Cornish for Midwinter Solstice - is a festival that takes place in the streets of Penzance, culminating on Montol Eve, 21 December, with night-time processions and 'guise dancing' that harks back to the medieval custom of people visiting homes on special occasions to perform in disguise.  Hundreds of people dress up in colstumes following prescibed rules, and a 'Mock' or Cornish yule log, with a stickman chalked on it, is burned to symbolise the death of the old year and the birth of the new.

ENJOY!

MERRY CHIRSTMAS!

THANK YOU ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE

FROM BERNADETTE

Sunday, October 30, 2016

HOLIDAYS ARE COMING - YOUR PRIVATE LIFE...

Since the holidays are coming, I thought I would share some social customs and helpful information.

Living Harmoniously as a family

The family can be a great joy, a loving refuge from a difficult world.  But it can also be the sourse of great stress.  The tone of a household is determined by the people who run it; in a traditional one, that means the mother and the father.  Today it may also mean a single parent, occasionally a gay couple, or two adults of either sex who simply opt to live together.  Luckily for us, we have been raised in a society in which democratic principles filter down to the private level.  Most heads of American households operate not as dictatorial autocrats but more as chairpersons who help guide the family toward order, stability, and harmony.  You and your spouse can create a home that is pleasant to live in and a joy for friends to visit by keeping three things in mind:  Maintain your mutual respect.  Keep communication lines open.  And never, ever, lose your sense of humor.

More helpful information coming through the holidays...


Saturday, October 8, 2016

TEA TIME MAGAZINE

Featured in Tea Time Magazine
November/December Issue


I am thrilled to be a part of Tea Time Magazine.  Each time I recive my magazine in the mail, I sit with a cup of tea and enjoy all of the fabulous articles.  

A special thank you to Ms. Lorna Reeves, Editor, Ms. Betty Terry, Associate Editor, and of course the darling Brian Hoffman, CCO!

An incredible group to work with.