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Polite Society School of Étiquette offers a thoughtfully curated collection of courses designed to cultivate grace, confidence, and impeccable poise. The following courses are offered. Beginning Étiquette Course — An introduction to the essential principles of etiquette, gracious manners, and confident social interaction. Afternoon Tea Étiquette Course — An elegant exploration of afternoon tea traditions, tea-table etiquette, and the art of hosting and participating in this cherished ritual. Protocol, Decorum, & Savoir-Faire Course — A study of refined conduct, formal protocol, and the discernment required to navigate social and professional settings with confidence. The Story of Tea Course — A captivating journey through the history, culture, and traditions of tea, celebrating its enduring influence on societies around the world. Étiquette tutelage is also offered through speaking engagements, instructional webinars, school seminars, private dinners, and specialty tea events. The School's mission is to educate both adults and children in the traditional principles of etiquette and the essential social skills needed for everyday life. The curriculum encompasses the history of etiquette, social graces, dining etiquette, proper table settings, appropriate attire, protocol, decorum, and other valuable etiquette practices. Students also learn the art and essentials of preparing and serving a proper Afternoon Tea. Polite Society School of Étiquette provides students with the knowledge and skills to navigate the expectations of society with grace, poise, and confidence, empowering them to feel comfortable and self-assured in any social situation. All courses include foods and beverages as teaching aids. Interactive online training courses are available.

Wednesday, September 22, 2021

Lifelong Manners to live by...

 The top étiquette lessons to live by.


Please chew with your mouth closed.

Do not interrupt anyone when they are speaking.

Do not tell anyone about their appearance unless it is nice.

more coming...


Learn étiquette and manners with one-on-one training in the comfort of your own home.  

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Newest book available on Amazon.

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Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Étiquette

Sunday, September 19, 2021

Always show respect and kindness to everyone around you...

Some basic étiquette rules to live by...


Make an effort to say please, thank you, and excuse me everyday.

Learn how to utilize your silverware and napkin correctly.

Do not put your elbows on the table...


more to come....




Learn étiquette and manners with one-on-one training in the comfort of your own home.  

Visit www.PoliteSocietySchool.com for more information!

Newest book available on Amazon.

Enjoy!


Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Étiquette

 

Monday, August 23, 2021

Proper way to drink Tea

Once you are served tea, you may pick up your cup of tea by grasping with you thumb and index finger.  Contrary to popular belief, the pinkie should never be held upright, which is considered rude.  Finally, tea is sipped, not gulped, and the cup is returned to the saucer between sips.



Learn étiquette and manners with one-on-one training in the comfort of your own home.  

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Newest book available on Amazon.

Enjoy!


Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Étiquette

 

Tuesday, July 13, 2021

Canapé - Where did this word come from?

 TIMES GONE BY....


The term canapé comes from the French word for "couch."  This makes sense if you look at the garnish as a person, sitting on a couch!   I love this explanation!

Nonetheless, it is expected that a canapé be salty or spicy, as its job as an appetizer is to increase the guests' appetites.


more interesting facts coming....


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Newest book available on Amazon.

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Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Étiquette

 

Saturday, July 3, 2021

Mrs. Beeton's Book of Household Management (1861)

Isabella Beeton

The 1861 Classic with Advice on Cooking, Cleaning, Childrearing, Entertaining, and More!

As my biography says, I worked for the City of Los Angeles for 30 years.  I loved my job, but the job I felt most happy with was my job at home.  I loved creating a beautiful home and I just adored raising my son.  I was very fortunate that I was able to take many years off work and I even worked part time during my City years.  I can tell anyone who might wonder which job was the hardest!  The stay at home was the hardest and the most rewarding - I truly was the "Commander of my Home" as Mrs. Beeton says in her book.  

From Mrs. Beeton - As with the commander of an army, or the leader of any enterprise, so is it with the mistress of a house.  Her spirit will be seen through the whole establishment; and just in proportion as she performs her duties intelligently and thoroughly.  Of all those acquirements, which more particularly belong to the feminine character, there are none which take a higher rank than such as enter into a knowledge of household duties; for on these are perpetually dependent the happiness, comfort, and well-being of a family.

More to come on my next post.... 


Learn étiquette and manners with one-on-one training in the comfort of your own home.  

Visit www.PoliteSocietySchool.com for more information!

Newest book available on Amazon.

Enjoy!


Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Étiquette

 


 

Monday, May 17, 2021

Handshaking - The Ultimate Greeting


Brief History of Handshaking



Handshaking—The Ultimate Greeting Shaking hands creates a favorable impression and influences others to do the same. The handshake is important because it is the accepted greeting in almost all countries. Always shake hands when: introduced to a person and when you say goodbye, when someone comes into your office to see you, when you meet someone outside your office or home, when you enter a room, when you leave a gathering, when you congratulate someone who has won an award or given a speech, and when you are consoling someone. Be sure to make eye contact. Smile while shaking someone’s hand. Smiling triggers positive endorphins. A firm but not overpowering handshake is usually a good idea. Be especially careful how much pressure you exert if you are shaking hands with an elderly person or if you are wearing heavy rings that might bruise. Be sure your handshake is both firm and brief. Count to three and let go. Also, use your right hand even if you are left-handed because most people are right-handed.

Always stand when shaking hands and never shake hands over a barrier (desk, etc.). In America, people usually shake hands with two shakes.

Historically, gentlemen would frequently carry swords since they could never be quite sure who their friends were. When engaging in combat, they would unsheathe their weapons using their right hand as the sword was carried in a scabbard on their left hip. Therefore, when meeting someone they considered a friend, they would show that they meant no harm by presenting their right hand away from the left hip, palm open, to confirm they were not holding a weapon.


Learn étiquette and manners with one-on-one training in the comfort of your own home.  

Visit www.PoliteSocietySchool.com for more information!

Newest book available on Amazon.

Enjoy!


Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Étiquette

 




Thursday, February 25, 2021

EASY ENTERTAINING



Entertaining is one of the greatest gifts bestowed upon people while creating memorable events for family and friends. It is a time for enjoying cherished friends, introducing family members to old friends, and creating an atmosphere that is warm and welcoming. One of the most welcoming aspects of entertaining is to create a beautiful table that will add brilliance and peacefulness to a meal. Mixing antique collections with contemporary pieces adds drama and a sense of the unexpected whether setting a formal, an informal, or a family table setting.

Hopefully, this chapter will inspire hosts and hostesses to entertain and also inspire guests to be entertained in the most elegant fashion. Above all, graciousness should be the most outstanding characteristic for all.

The first step to entertaining begins with sending out invitations. Invitations are very important and should be designed or purchased to fit the occasion. There is a lot of flexibility and variation to style, paper, color, and wording. There is also proper protocol for addressing individuals.

MORE ON MY LASTEST BOOK!  

The Art of Timeless Étiquette, Graceful Dining Manners, & Afternoon Tea



Learn étiquette and manners with one-on-one training in the comfort of your own home.  

Visit www.PoliteSocietySchool.com for more information!


Enjoy!


Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Étiquette