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Polite Society School of Étiquette offers Beginning, Advanced, Business, and Tea Étiquette Courses. Étiquette tutelage is presented at speaking engagements, webinars, school seminars, private dinners, and specialty tea events. The School's mission is to educate adults and children in customary codes of conduct with an emphasis on everyday social graces.

Thursday, December 28, 2017



TEA ESSENTIALS FOR THE NEW YEAR!


Let's start from the very beginning as I take you through the world of tea!

Tea traditions and the art and practice of drinking tea has its origins in thousands of years of history.  That people the world over continue not only to drink but also to honor it through ceremonies and customs speaks to the timeless qualities of this comforting beverage.

With the table set and fragrant flowers arranged in vases, all the pieces are in place for a lovely gathering.  From brewing the perfect blend to setting the menu, careful planning ensures a memorable teatime experience.

Let's start with some history:

Victorian Afternoon Tea
Brief History
An old legend credits the Chinese Emperor Shen Nung in the 28th century B.C. with the
discovery of tea. As the story is told, the health conscious emperor knew that boiling
water before drinking seemed to protect people from disease. He always insisted on
having his water boiled and that simple precaution led to a wonderful revelation. One
day while touring the provinces, the emperor stopped for a rest with his entourage.
Servants gathered branches from a nearby evergreen bush to build a fire for boiling the
emperor’s water. A passing wind blew leaves from the bush into the boiling pot and soon
a delightful aroma issued forth. Intrigued, the emperor quickly sipped a bit of the
infusion. He immediately declared that the refreshing brew must have medicinal
qualities and ordered his servants to gather leaves from the bush to take back to the
palace.

News of the emperor’s discovery spread quickly throughout the provinces. Soon
everyone in China was drinking tea and the infusion of that evergreen plant quickly
became an important part of the Chinese culture. Over the centuries, the knowledge and
appreciation of tea gradually spread to other parts of the Orient.

After hundreds of years, tea arrived in England and by 1660 tea was flowing everywhere
on the island. One Samuel Pepys, renowned 17th century diarist, noted in 1660 that he
had his very first “cup of tee of which I had never drunk before.” In 1662, when
England’s King Charles II married Portugal’s Princess Catherine of Braganza, part of her
dowry was a chest of tea. It was this queen’s love for tea and her influence on the royal
court that influenced the spread of the “new drink.” Tea merchants were soon offering
tea as an elixir for just about anything that ailed anyone. It was first served in public
coffeehouses and in outdoor “tea gardens” then increasingly in homes.

Around 1650, Dutch ships carrying the new drink to the Dutch colony of New
Amsterdam introduced it to the American colonies. It took another twenty years for the
rest of the colonies to become acquainted with tea, though no one really had any idea of
how to use it properly. Americans would let the tea brew and stew for hours, creating a
dark bitter drink. They also salted and ate the used leaves on buttered bread. It wasn’t
until 1674, when the British took over New Amsterdam and renamed it New York, that
the custom of tea drinking as we now know it began.

Tea was enjoyed in the American Colonies until the late 18th century. But when King
George III decided to use tea as a source of revenue, and raised the import tax on tea sent
to the Colonies, the independent-minded Americans rebelled. In 1773 the colonists
dressed as Native Americans and dumped a shipload of tea into the Boston Harbor. This
event became known as the Boston Tea Party and was one of many that propelled the
colonies toward independence and probably indirectly led to a marked preference for
coffee in the United States.

Around 1840, the custom of afternoon tea began in England and is credited to one of
Queen Victoria’s ladies-in-waiting, Anna Maria Stanhope, known as the Duchess of
Bedford. In England at the time, people ate a heavy breakfast, a late dinner, and very
little in between. Toward mid afternoon the Duchess routinely experienced a “sinking
feeling” which she remedied by dining in her boudoir with tea, cakes, tarts, and biscuits.
Others soon followed the Duchess’ lead and in a few decades the custom of “taking tea”
in the afternoon became well established. At first the practice was limited to the upper
classes, but it eventually became so popular that tea shops and tearooms began opening
for the enjoyment of the general public. This elegant custom became greatly popularized
during the height of the Victorian Era making “teatime” a regular pastime of the proper
English Lady.

By the late 19th century, teatime had acquired its’ own formal etiquette. Tea services
were made of silver or china. Fine linens were used for tea cloths and serviettes (table
napkins). Tea gowns were loose and flowing with matching hats and gloves. The tea
itself was imported from India or Ceylon (now Sri Lanka), colonies of the British Empire.
With the tea came decorated platters of savories (dainty finger sandwiches), scones with
jams or homemade preserves and clotted cream, toast with cinnamon, petits fours (small
cakes cut from pound or sponge cakes and frosted), and other delicacies that came to be
known as “tea food.” In working class homes, afternoon tea became a much heartier
affair with cold meats, cheeses, and breads. This evening meal was called “high tea” and
often replaced dinner.

The United States can claim two distinct contributions when it comes to tea, both dating
from the 20th century. In 1904, visitors to the Louisiana Purchase Exposition in St. Louis
sweltered in a heat wave and shunned the hot brew offered by Indian tea growers. An
Englishman named Richard Blechynden, who represented the tea growers, experimented
with pouring the tea over ice in order to entice fair visitors. The result was a success.
Iced tea now accounts for 80 percent of the tea drunk in the United States. The second
contribution is the tea bag, the brainstorm of an American tea merchant named Thomas
Sullivan, who hit on the idea of providing samples to his customers in small silk pouches
or “a tea leaf holder.” Sullivan’s customers soon discovered that the pouches could be put
directly in teapots. Orders soon came pouring in for the tea packaged in those little bags
and Sullivan patented his brainstorm.

Nearly five thousand years have gone by since Emperor Shen Nung sipped the first cup
of tea on that Chinese roadside and almost two centuries have elapsed since the Duchess
of Bedford first thought of tea and cakes to carry her through until dinnertime. So much
time, yet some things do grow better with age. Tea can be enjoyed today with a sense of
history and a sense of kinship with those who made significant contributions to the
development of this lovely pastime.




HAPPY NEW YEAR!:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com




Friday, December 22, 2017

GREAT ETIQUETTE BOOKS FOR CHRISTMAS

CHRISTMAS GIFT IDEAS




AND FOR THE CHILDREN




MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com




Thursday, December 21, 2017

Featured in Tea Time Magazine!

TEA TIME MAGAZINE


Featured in Tea Time Magazine
November/December Issue


I am thrilled to be a part of Tea Time Magazine.  Each time I recive my magazine in the mail, I sit with a cup of tea and enjoy all of the fabulous articles.  

A special thank you to Ms. Lorna Reeves, Editor, Ms. Betty Terry, Associate Editor, and of course the darling Brian Hoffman, CCO!

An incredible group to work with.



MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com




Monday, December 18, 2017

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #12

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #12


The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#12 - Boxing Day Walks



Heading out for a blast of fresh air after a day spent indoors is a welcome change in a Christmas schedule full of eating, drinking and making merry.

Whatever the weather, donning hand-knitted jumpers and oversized coats is par for the course, as are wellies and woolen knee socks.  Though it is true that wrapping up against the elements is something of a necessity, making a noble nod to physical activity at this time of year is worth undertaking.  

For the truly active, Boxing Day is a time for sports, be it bracing outdoor group swims, a day at the races or a football match!

As anyone will attest, returning home rosy cheeked after a reinvigorating day spent in the fresh air, provides welcome succor at the end of the day.

MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com






THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #11

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #11


The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#11 - Christmas Games



With paper crowns firmly in place and cracker jokes exchanged, the multi-generational Christmas games can begin. 

Board games are a perennial favorite, and provide ample opportunity for friendly rivalry.  The jovial squabble over preferred Monopoly pieces - woe betide the family member who tries to purloin the silver top hat from Granny - soon gives way to hours lost in pleasurable pursuit of the end goal.

Though the sofa may beckon after the Christmas repast, parlor games reinvigorate proceedings, with endless rounds of Charades and Sardines leading to much laughter and jovial antics.

If young ones - or even the young at heart - have excess enthusiasm to be channelled, then a compelling round or two of Blindman’s Bluff, or even Wink Murder, is an effective way to bring the day to a close.

MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com






THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #10

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #10


The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#10 - The Christmas Feast


A decadent mid-morning glass of champagne is par for the course when setting the tone for a day of Christmas feasting.  Whether the feast takes place in daylight hours or towards the end of the day, when the approaching dusk sets an atmospheric tone amid flickering candlelight, a suitable festive breakfast is in order to whet the appetite. Creaming scrambled eggs sit atop coral strips of smoked salmon or carved slices of home-baked ham, alongside golden brown toast rich with butter and citrus-fresh marmalade.

The turkey in all its burnished glory takes its rightful place at the centre of the spread, surrounded by golden roast potatoes crisped in goose fat hot from the oven.  The enticing aroma of herb-flecked stuffing wafts from within the bronzed bird, whilst the surrounding platter bears pigs in blankets nestled into the nooks and crevices of plump thighs and juicy drumsticks.  Tureens of carrots and Brussels sprouts dotted with melted butter sit alongside the gravy boat, itself teetering precariously under the weight of the delicious juices, whilst a bowl of vibrant cranberry sauce provides a zesty counterpoint to the rich flavors. 

Slipping a treat to the dog under the table allows room for the traditional centerpiece Christmas pudding - carried to the table with a sprig of holly, it is then set ablaze with brandy, or whisky for a Scottish twist, adding a touch of drama to the feast.  Served with cream and anointed with a further splash of neat spirits, or with brandy butter for richness, this is the most festive of sweet treats.

After a nip of digestif to settle the stomach, the cheeseboard beckons, with tempting mature hard varieties, voluptuous soft-rind offerings and fresh young cheese accompanied by homemade chutney and a token sprig of celery.

Come early evening after a post-prandial snooze, stomachs rumbling anew take everyone by surprise.  Though the main meal may have taken place but a few hours previously, nothing is quite as fitting an end to the day as enjoying a mince pie or a slice of Christmas cake with a cup of tea whilst curled up on the sofa.

MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com






THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #9

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #9


The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#9 - Christmas Eve and the Morning Awakening


Putting pen to paper is never a more thrilling project as a child than when the recipient is Father Christmas.  The charmingly innocent candor with which wishlists are compiled in missives to the North Pole cannot fail to melt hearts as well as cause a few chuckles.  Children sending a letter via Polar Post will receive a personalized letter in return from Father Christmas, hand-addressed by the elves.

The palpable sense of excitement that starts long before 24 December gathers momentum when stockings are hung by the fireplace, and mince pies and whisky are left out for Father Christmas and his team - not forgetting a carrot for Rudolph too, or course.  Overnight, whilst the elves are hard at work fueled by their midnight feast, stockings change from from their smooth outlines to multidimensional creations bearing oddly-shaped bulges and unusual angles.  Inside, perennial favorites such as beautiful notebooks, and of course, the obligatory satsuma and bag of chocolate gold coins lie, waiting to be discovered.

Waking up to see presents under the tree proves a dizzying rush matched only by the excitement of sharing the moment with loved ones.  Small hands with palms clammy in anticipation clasp those of adults, themselves charmed by the evident delight of children who cannot quite believe their eyes.  Propelled by sheer joy and elation, opening fights sees each unwrapped parcel prompt deep-felt reactions from all those around.

MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com






THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #8

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #8


The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#8 - Christmas Crafts


There is something deeply satisfying about producing key elements of home decor at Christmas time.  When time and resources are in plentiful supply, nothing quite sates the creative appetite like seeing through a crafting process from start to finish.

Long before even the first snowflake has fallen or the temperature has dipped into single figures, fashioning advent calendars unique to their eventual owner may seem like a fanciful notion.  However, it neatly focuses the attention whilst simultaneously offering an outlet for all things festive ahead of the twelfth month of the year.  Likewise, drawing up a list of Christmas cards to be dispatched becomes pleasurable when the cards in question have been lovingly hand-crafted.

Wreaths, table centerpieces and table settings all seem better for a home-make touch.  Children will be delighted with hand-stitched stockings to hang above the fireplace, ready for a visit from Father Christmas.

As if their presence were not a gift enough, their unbridled joy for the festive season also translates into a multitude of craft activities, including creating traditional pomanders, name settings for the table and cut-out snowflakes.

MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com






THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #7

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #7


The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#7 - Drinks Parties


The art of hosting comes into its own in December, when the telltale thud of thick card invitations landing on the doormat occurs with pleasing regularity.

Having a drinks party takes on a special meaning at Christmas, when social circles intermingle and those who may not normally cross paths enjoy raising a glass together in the spirit of the festive season.

There is a thrilling sense of anticipation that goes hand-in-hand with preparation, whether as host or as a guest.  Dress codes may be more relaxed in modern times but still, dressing up in festive finery or a gaudy Christmas jumper marks the beginning of the evening, be it a formal champagne reception or a cosy kitchen affair amongst close friends.

Inevitably at Christmas time, where there are drinks, there a canapés: devils on horseback with salt strips of bacon wrapped around plump juicy prunes and smoked-salmon blinis topped with cream cheese and caviar, and perhaps a squeeze of lemon.  Other savoury treats might include freshly baked mouthfuls of flaky pastry in the form of vol-au-vents, mini tartlets and parmesan twists, whilst on the pudding side of things, mini mince pies and candied chestnuts are perfectly bite-sized for the sweet of touch.  Now is the time of year, too, to tempt guests with a delicious selection of cheeses  alongside smoked salmon and to indulge puddings treats.

MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com






THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #6

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #6


The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#6 - Carolling



Christmas is as much about the sights and sounds of its accompanying activities as it is about the big day itself.

December sees groups of carolers, young and old, walk tree-lined streets under a cloak of darkness.  Bearing a lantern aloft, they make their way to front doors, where residents, stirred by sweet dulcet tones, open their doors to the harmonious strains of traditional tunes and charitable endeavours.  

Beyond home, carol services offer a different appreciation of this most traditional of forms.  Services taking place across the country evoke a similarly festive feel in all who attend their performances.  Whether a cappella or accompanied by organs, brass bands or percussion, carol services are a unifying and stirring element of the season.


MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com