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Sunday, March 18, 2018

Polite Society School - "Manners"

Manners

"You have been invited to someone's home for dinner"

What to do??

Be Fashionably On Time: Arrive at a formal dinner party thirty minutes before dinner. At a less formal event, the general rule today is to arrive no earlier than twenty minutes before dinner. Gifts are not expected unless it is a birthday or a celebration of some sort. You may bring a special bottle of vintage port, champagne, or sparkling cider. Never suggest or mention that your wine be served. The host or hostess has decided which wines should accompany his or her menu.

Flowers should not be given to the hostess because she or the staff will be too preoccupied to arrange them. The flowers, like the wine, have already been chosen. Instead, it is thoughtful to call the hostess several days before the dinner to say you would like to send her flowers in advance and ask what are a few of her favorites as well as her preference in color.

Make An Entrance: Almost everyone watches the entrance of a room. Enter the room with good posture. Do not rush into the room, even if you are late. Do not slouch. Do not speak loudly or expect everyone to stop what they are doing and greet you. Rather, look for the honoree, the host, or the hostess and greet them politely while complimenting the hostess on some item of décor, her costume, etc. It is true you only get one chance to make a first impression; be careful that your impression is a good one. Always be sure to greet the host or hostess before you accept a drink.

NOTE: Shoes off at the front door can be done very comfortably by providing slip-ons for indoor use or shoe covers. You can put a basket by the door filled with surgical booties. Also have a bench or chair nearby so guests can sit down and either take their shoes off, put slip-ons on, or put booties over their shoes.

Remove Gloves: Remove your gloves before you shake a person’s hand. Unless there is a reason not to, it is best to remove your gloves as soon as you arrive at an event.

NOTE: Gloves are often thought of as something born of the Napoleonic era. In fact, they’ve been worn for over 10,000 years. Of course, the earliest uses were not for fashion but more utilitarian in purpose. Gloves protected one’s hands from harsh weather or hard labor. Even thousands of years ago, they were not worn during dinner service. This is understandable when you consider that until the 1600s, food was traditionally eaten with fingers.

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NEW ONLINE TEA ETIQUETTE TRAINING AVAILABLE!

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta

Founder & Director

Polite Society School of Etiquette

Authored Books:

The Art of the Social Graces

The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea

EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website: PoliteSocietySchool.com

Email: PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com

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NEW REVISED EDITION - The Art of Timeless Étiquette, Graceful Dining Manners, & Afternoon Tea

The Polite School of Étiquette presents Volume V, The Art of Timeless Étiquette, Graceful Dining Manners, & Afternoon Tea Revised Edition, featuring Social Graces, Étiquette History, Introduction Methods, Entertaining Guidelines, Correspondence Protocol, History of Tableware, Dining out Manners, American and Continental Style Dining, Appropriate Dress Attire, Personal Care and Home Management, History of Tea, Types of Tea, Tea Pairings and Tastings, Afternoon Tea in England, Tea Food Dining Instructions, and Formalities for Preparing a “Proper” Afternoon Tea. This revised edition is an updated compilation of Volume I, Volume II, and Volume IV with additional étiquette information and home management guidelines. The Art of Timeless Étiquette, Graceful Dining Manners, & Afternoon Tea Revised Edition offers practical knowledge in basic social skills for all occasions and settings and includes useful information and advice to enhance one’s lifestyle in the social and business world. It takes the reader through a brief history of étiquette, offers introduction methods and conversation techniques, provides guidelines for entertaining, presents illustrations for formal, informal, and family style table settings, and explains the difference between Continental and American Style dining. It also provides instructions on the proper way to consume soups, beverages, tea, coffee, and various difficult foods. With beautiful photographs, exquisite china, gleaming silver, and stunning floral bouquets, The Art of Timeless Étiquette, Graceful Dining Manners, & Afternoon Tea Revised Edition delights the senses with elegant and picturesque table settings, antique teacups, and beautiful linens. Together these elements form the foundation for an elegant table setting. In the chapters dedicated to Afternoon Tea, detailed information is provided on the history of tea, styles of tea, types of tea, tea pairings with fruits and savouries, and tea tasting characteristics. Instructions are provided on making the perfect pot of tea for this charming custom that was once the hallmark of high society. Detailed guidelines are presented on how to set a proper tea table and how to set up a tea style buffet along with instructions on dining with savouries, scones, and petits fours. This newest volume illustrates various methods for conducting oneself gracefully in his or her professional life keeping in mind the importance of first impressions. The chapter on virtues contains important information on self-discipline, friendship, courage, and other aspects for living a good life. As a bonus, The Art of Timeless Étiquette, Graceful Dining Manners, & Afternoon Tea Revised Edition journeys through chapters on the history, usage, and care of all tableware which includes flatware, dinnerware, stemware, and crystal. Credit is given to Richard Osterberg’s book, Sterling Silver Flatware (Published in 1994 by Schiffer Publishing Ltd.) for much of this information. Mr. Osterberg’s passionate interest in antiques and silver began during his Vermont childhood. He was introduced to a goldsmith and silversmith from Scotland and over time developed an interest in English, Scottish, and American silver that resulted in several publications. Credit is also given to William Hanson, executive director and owner of The English Manner based in London. Mr. Hanson is widely regarded as the most trusted authority on étiquette and civility. His life’s work continues to be the training of royalty, government officials, diplomats, and VIPs who wish to integrate good manners into the global forum. Mr. Hanson’s expert advice is priceless. Whether one is a homemaker, business professional, or student, The Art of Timeless Étiquette, Graceful Dining Manners, & Afternoon Tea Revised Edition will empower every reader with confidence as he or she learns life-changing essential manners and practical skills while exploring the world of étiquette. It will serve as one’s treasury of gracious living and offer inspiration for curating welcoming interiors and entertaining for every occasion.

EMMA The Étiquette Cat: Meet Emma Book

Volume III, EMMA The Étiquette Cat: Meet Emma, is beautifully written and illustrated. This children’s book is about Emma Elizabeth, an adorable Ragdoll feline. She is about two years old and is the sweetest kitty cat. Mischievous and loving with an abundance of curiosity, Emma fancies herself as a well-behaved kitty and her daily quest is to please her mum. She loves to play and sometimes gets into a bit of trouble, but her mum is very forgiving and gently corrects her. Children will instantly fall in love with Emma as they try to emulate her good manners. They will also enjoy her appetite for treats and her delightful personality. Gaylen Whiteman, an extremely talented artist who lives on picturesque Whidbey Island, beautifully illustrates Emma’s bright blue eyes and her gorgeous furry coat. Gaylen, who signs by her first name, captures Emma’s curious personality as she is featured near mum’s tea table, antique tub, and other interesting areas of her home. The book also includes a fabulous healthy English Scone Recipe, a Mock Devonshire Cream Recipe, and a Blackberry Fruit Spread Recipe for parents to make with their children along with a short explanation of the word “etiquette,” a child’s place setting illustration, and a family-style place setting illustration.

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