Welcome

Polite Society School of Étiquette offers a thoughtfully curated collection of courses designed to cultivate grace, confidence, and impeccable poise. The following courses are offered. Beginning Étiquette Course — An introduction to the essential principles of etiquette, gracious manners, and confident social interaction. Afternoon Tea Étiquette Course — An elegant exploration of afternoon tea traditions, tea-table etiquette, and the art of hosting and participating in this cherished ritual. Protocol, Decorum, & Savoir-Faire Course — A study of refined conduct, formal protocol, and the discernment required to navigate social and professional settings with confidence. The Story of Tea Course — A captivating journey through the history, culture, and traditions of tea, celebrating its enduring influence on societies around the world. Étiquette tutelage is also offered through speaking engagements, instructional webinars, school seminars, private dinners, and specialty tea events. The School's mission is to educate both adults and children in the traditional principles of etiquette and the essential social skills needed for everyday life. The curriculum encompasses the history of etiquette, social graces, dining etiquette, proper table settings, appropriate attire, protocol, decorum, and other valuable etiquette practices. Students also learn the art and essentials of preparing and serving a proper Afternoon Tea. Polite Society School of Étiquette provides students with the knowledge and skills to navigate the expectations of society with grace, poise, and confidence, empowering them to feel comfortable and self-assured in any social situation. All courses include foods and beverages as teaching aids. Interactive online training courses are available.

Saturday, March 29, 2014

Victorian Afternoon Tea

Brief History


An old legend credits the Chinese Emperor Shen Nung in the 28th century B.C. with the discovery of tea.  As the story is told, the health conscious emperor knew that boiling water before drinking seemed to protect people from disease.  He always insisted on having his water boiled and that simple precaution led to a wonderful revelation.  One day while touring the provinces, the emperor stopped for a rest with his entourage.  Servants gathered branches from a nearby evergreen bush to build a fire for boiling the emperor’s water.  A passing wind blew leaves from the bush into the boiling pot and soon a delightful aroma issued forth.  Intrigued, the emperor quickly sipped a bit of the infusion.  He immediately declared that the refreshing brew must have medicinal qualities and ordered his servants to gather leaves from the bush to take back to the palace.

News of the emperor’s discovery spread quickly throughout the provinces.  Soon everyone in China was drinking tea and the infusion of that evergreen plant quickly became an important part of the Chinese culture.  Over the centuries, the knowledge and appreciation of tea gradually spread to other parts of the Orient.

After hundreds of years, tea arrived in England and by 1660 tea was flowing everywhere on the island.  One Samuel Pepys, renowned 17th century diarist, noted in 1660 that he had his very first “cup of tee of which I had never drunk before.”  In 1662, when England’s King Charles II married Portugal’s Princess Catherine of Braganza, part of her dowry was a chest of tea.  It was this queen’s love for tea and her influence on the royal court that influ­enced the spread of the “new drink.”  Tea merchants were soon offering tea as an elixir for just about anything that ailed anyone.  It was first served in public coffeehouses and in outdoor “tea gardens” then increasingly in homes.

Around 1650, Dutch ships carrying the new drink to the Dutch colony of New Amsterdam introduced it to the American colonies.  It took another twenty years for the rest of the colonies to become acquainted with tea, though no one really had any idea of how to use it properly.  Americans would let the tea brew and stew for hours, creating a dark bitter drink.  They also salted and ate the used leaves on buttered bread.  It wasn’t until 1674, when the British took over New Amsterdam and renamed it New York, that the custom of tea drinking as we now know it began.

Tea was enjoyed in the American Colonies until the late 18th century.  But when King George III decided to use tea as a source of revenue, and raised the import tax on tea sent to the Colonies, the independent-minded Americans rebelled.  In 1773 the colonists dressed as Native Americans and dumped a shipload of tea into the Boston Harbor.  This event became known as the Boston Tea Party and was one of many that propelled the colonies toward independence and probably indirectly led to a marked preference for coffee in the United States.

Around 1840, the custom of afternoon tea began in England and is credited to one of Queen Victoria’s ladies-in-waiting, Anna Maria Stanhope, known as the Duchess of Bedford.  In England at the time, people ate a heavy breakfast, a late dinner, and very little in between.  Toward mid afternoon the Duchess routinely experienced a “sinking feeling” which she remedied by dining in her boudoir with tea, cakes, tarts, and biscuits.  Others soon followed the Duchess’ lead and in a few decades the custom of “taking tea” in the afternoon became well established.  At first the practice was limited to the upper classes, but it eventually became so popular that tea shops and tearooms began opening for the enjoyment of the general public.  This elegant custom became greatly popularized during the height of the Victorian Era making “teatime” a regular pastime of the proper English Lady.

By the late 19th century, teatime had acquired its’ own formal etiquette.  Tea services were made of silver or china.  Fine linens were used for tea cloths and serviettes (table napkins).  Tea gowns were loose and flowing with matching hats and gloves.  The tea itself was imported from India or Ceylon (now Sri Lanka), colonies of the British Empire. With the tea came decorated platters of savories (dainty finger sandwiches), scones with jams or homemade preserves and clotted cream, toast with cinnamon, petits fours (small cakes cut from pound or sponge cakes and frosted), and other delicacies that came to be known as “tea food.”  In working class homes, afternoon tea became a much heartier affair with cold meats, cheeses, and breads.  This evening meal was called “high tea” and often replaced dinner.

The United States can claim two distinct contributions when it comes to tea, both dating from the 20th century.  In 1904, visitors to the Louisiana Purchase Exposition in St. Louis sweltered in a heat wave and shunned the hot brew offered by Indian tea growers.  An Englishman named Richard Blechynden, who represented the tea growers, experimented with pouring the tea over ice in order to entice fair visitors.  The result was a success.  Iced tea now accounts for 80 percent of the tea drunk in the United States.  The second contribution is the tea bag, the brainstorm of an American tea merchant named Thomas Sullivan, who hit on the idea of providing samples to his customers in small silk pouches or “a tea leaf holder.” Sullivan’s customers soon discovered that the pouches could be put directly in teapots.  Orders soon came pouring in for the tea packaged in those little bags and Sullivan patented his brainstorm.

Nearly five thousand years have gone by since Emperor Shen Nung sipped the first cup of tea on that Chinese roadside and almost two centuries have elapsed since the Duchess of Bedford first thought of tea and cakes to carry her through until dinnertime.  So much time, yet some things do grow better with age.  Tea can be enjoyed today with a sense of history and a sense of kinship with those who made significant contributions to the development of this lovely pastime.






Friday, December 13, 2013

FESTIVE EVERGREENS

FESTIVE EVERGREENS

In deepest winter, when the clamour of spring and summer has passed, autumn has slipped away and the world is at its most elemental, three plants have their finest hour:  holly, ivy and mistletoe.

Contemporary Christmas celebrations are very often characterised by a surfeit of decorations, from strings of spakling tinsel and glittering votives to the shiniest of red baubles.  Whilst these have their place, for centuries wintertime celebrations made use of the evergreen foliage that was to be found in the natural environment and contrary to common perceptions, there is a surprising amount that can be brought in from the garden and put to good decorative use.  Laurel and rosemary maintain their vitality throughout winter and have the advantage of wonderful frangrances, while many species of cypress and spruce are useful in arrangements, too.   



Saturday, August 3, 2013

LAVENDER

A Perfect Morning
Tea and scones with lavender honey 
The air filled with scented lavender
And my French magazine in hand

I could not resist to share......

Since Roman times, lavender has been used to scent baths, clean clothes and as a herbal remedy.  Its name comes from the Latin lavare (to wash), or from a variant of lividula (livid in colour), depending on which source you believe. It is the traditional cure for head lice and burns.  During medieval times and up to the beginning of the 19th century, the wild lavender growing in the scrublands of northern Provence largely satisfied the demands of shepherds, washerwomen and early parfumeurs.  However, as Grasse's perfume industry started to expand at the end of the 19th century, increasing numbers of villagers in Provence began to cultivate lavender.

Production in Provence grew massively until the 1970s when cheaper lavender started to arrive from the East, mainly Bulgaria.  The decline continued with the development of synthetic alternatives.

What saved the lavender industry was, in part, a beautiful myth.  With lavender came the bees, the cicadas and the scented honey to create a portrait of a bounteous and scenic Provence that appealed to tourists.  Then an interest in aromatherapy and natural, organic products increased demand for the real thing.
Besides its use in perfumes, lavender oil helps to treat insomnia, irritability, headaches, stress, cuts and burns, eczema, bedsores, sunburn and insect bites.  Lavender is used in potpourri sachets and to scent soaps, detergents and washing powder.  


Sunday, July 28, 2013

Handshaking - The Ultimate Greeting


Shaking hands creates a favorable impression and influences others to do the same.  The handshake is important because it is the accepted greeting in almost all countries.  Always shake hands when: introduced to a person and when you say goodbye, when someone comes into your office to see you, when you meet someone outside your office or home, when you enter a room, when you leave a gathering, when you congratulate someone who has won an award or given a speech, and when you are consoling someone.  Hand shaking is not exclusively for males.  Women, too, are encouraged to offer their hand when an introduction is made.  A firm but not overpowering handshake is usually a good idea.  Be especially careful of how much pressure you exert if you are shaking hands with an elderly person or if you are wearing heavy rings which might bruise, but be sure your handshake is both firm and brief.  Count to three and let go.

From The Art of the Social Graces Book

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Sugar in the 18 century - Jane Austin's time

Hello etiquette friends!  I thought I would start blogging some excerpts from my latest book.

The Art and Proper Etiquette 
of Afternoon Tea






Sugar in the 18 century (Jane Austin’s time) was kept locked up because it was very expensive.  It was sold in many grades, from the highly refined, pure white sugar that only the well off could afford, down to the darkest of brown sugars used by the poor.  Granulated sugar had been only recently invented and was not yet widely available.  Sugar was molded into large, cone-shaped loaves weighing several pounds each that had to be broken up or grated before the sugar could be used.  Sugar cubes would not be invented until 1843 – if people wanted sugar for tea, they had to first break it into irregular lumps with special tools called “sugar nippers,” from which practices comes the traditional question “One lump or two?”

From Polite Society School of Etiquette






Thursday, March 21, 2013

HEALTHLY RECIPE FROM POLITE SOCIETY SCHOOL OF ETIQUETTE Apple-Cranberry Crisp



Preheat over to 375 degrees.

Organic Ingredients:
14 large green apples, peeled, cored, sliced
8 ounces fresh, dried, or frozen cranberries
8 ounces currants
Juice of 1 lemon
1/3 cup brandy
1/4 cup light-brown sugar (optional)
2 teaspoons cinnamon
2 tablespoons whole wheat pastry flour

Mix all above ingredients together in a very large bowl.
Place apple mixture in two 8 x 10 baking dishes.

Topping Ingredients:
3 cups old-fashioned rolled oats
1 1/2 cups toasted wheat germ
1/2 teaspoon salt
3 teaspoons cinnamon
1/4 cup light-brown sugar (optional)
2/3 cup canola or grapeseed oil
1/2 cup maple syrup

Mix topping ingredients together.

Spread topping evenly over two dishes of apple mixtures. 
Cover the baking dishes with aluminum foil and bake for 20 minutes.
Uncover and bake for 30 to 40 minutes more until apples are soft.

I know you will love this.  
Of course, it tastes best with a cup of tea!


My teapot and tea cozy are from Emma Bridgewater. 
Made in England


Enjoy

The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea

Polite Society School of Etiquette proudly announces

Etiquette Series, Volume II

The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea




Volume II, The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea, was written out of love for tea. It is dedicated to tea connoisseurs who love going out for Afternoon Tea in beautiful teahouses and dining on delicious scones, savories, petits fours, and of course, sipping their favorite brew of tea. In The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea, explore the world of tea etiquette along with carefully selected recipes that will become a cherished part of your repertoire. 

With beautiful photographs, the prettiest china, gleaming silver, and floral bouquets, The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea will take the reader through the history of Victorian Afternoon Tea, High Tea, Formal Afternoon Tea, Cream Tea and other styles of tea. It presents historic individuals who influenced the development of tea. Learn how to prepare a “Proper” tea at home, how to brew the perfect pot of tea and prepare scones, savories, and petits fours. Instruction is also provided on formal and informal invitations, how to set a buffet tea table for a large event, and how to set a tea tray for an intimate tea for two. The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea contains guidelines on table settings, serving techniques, dining with stemware, teacups and saucers, and dining with finger foods. Continental and American style dining are illustrated by easy-to-follow diagrams depicting utensil rest and finished positions. Information on entertaining, napkin etiquette, and healthy organic tea recipes with nutritional information is also provided. 

Whether enjoying a cup of tea in the morning, the afternoon, or the evening, this wonderful companion never fails us. It warms us when we are cold. It soothes us when we are weary. It lends sophistication and grace to our gatherings. Tea can be counted on to always save the day and bring the proper perspective to each day’s challenges. 

So today, as with everyday, let us raise our cup to the hungry Duchess of Bedford who experienced that “sinking feeling” which she remedied by dining in her boudoir with tea, cakes, tarts, and biscuits. Thank you Duchess…and thank you Queen Victoria for popularizing “teatime” and making it a regular pastime of the proper English Lady and helping to inspire this book.

Etiquette Series Volume I & II 
Available in eBook, Softcover, & Hardcover formats at www.PoliteSocietySchool.com.




And, of course, I wrote this book with a cup of tea in hand at all times...
Is does help to have a kitchen assistant by your side.



Emma Elizabeth