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Polite Society School of Étiquette offers a variety of courses. Beginning Étiquette Course, Afternoon Tea Étiquette Course, Protocol, Decorum, & Savoir-Faire Course, and The Story of Tea Course. Étiquette tutelage is presented at speaking engagements, instructional webinars, school seminars, private dinners, and specialty tea events. The School's mission is to educate adults and children in customary codes of conduct with an emphasis on everyday social skills. History of étiquette, social graces, dining principles, table setting instructions, appropriate dress attire, protocol, decorum, and other useful étiquette techniques along with the essentials of preparing a “Proper” Afternoon Tea are incorporated in the curriculum. Polite Society School of Étiquette provides rules for living in our society that will enable students to feel comfortable and confident in all social situations. All courses include foods and beverages as teaching aids. Interactive online training courses are available.

Monday, December 18, 2017

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #6

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #6


The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#6 - Carolling



Christmas is as much about the sights and sounds of its accompanying activities as it is about the big day itself.

December sees groups of carolers, young and old, walk tree-lined streets under a cloak of darkness.  Bearing a lantern aloft, they make their way to front doors, where residents, stirred by sweet dulcet tones, open their doors to the harmonious strains of traditional tunes and charitable endeavours.  

Beyond home, carol services offer a different appreciation of this most traditional of forms.  Services taking place across the country evoke a similarly festive feel in all who attend their performances.  Whether a cappella or accompanied by organs, brass bands or percussion, carol services are a unifying and stirring element of the season.


MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com






Sunday, December 17, 2017

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #5

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #5


The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#5 - Baking


Few things bring to mind the excitement of Christmas quite like the heady scent of seasonal treats lovingly prepared at home.

Redolent of times gone by, aromatic spiced cinnamon, nutmeg and cloves mingle with the perfume of citrus fruits - in both fresh and candied forms - alongside the rich toffee base-note of dried fruit in cakes, puddings and sweetmeats that are studded with jewel-like cranberries and ruby-red cherries.  This is the time of year when baking truly comes into its own - floured handprints smeared across rosy cheeks, flushed from the glow of the Aga, are but an incidental hazard when there are bakes to create for family and friends.

More than ever, the kitchen becomes the heart of the home, with sturdy mixing bowls, festive biscuit cutters and cheerily printed crockery making an appearance.  

Baking traditions warm both home and heart: there is little more cheering than proudly producing trays of biscuits for the tree, each laced onto delicate ribbons ready to be hung from the pine-scented needles; whilst the appeal of stirring the Christmas pudding, eyes closed and wooden spoon firmly in hand, transcends the generations eager to make that all-important festive wish!

MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com






Saturday, December 16, 2017

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #4 Nativity Play


THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #4



The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#4 - Nativity Play


Whether in church or at school, the recreation of the nativity scene never fails to bring joy to those who witness its performance.  The traditional telling of the story of Mary and Joseph, and their journey to Bethlehem, is a poignant reminder of the true meaning of Christmas amids what can often be a busy period filled with social occasions and merriment.  Taking the time to sit quietly and absorb the familiar narrative affords a moment of contemplation that binds mankind in common experience.

Little ones, especially, are never more entranced by the story than when in costume - bursting with pride and eyes shining with joy, it matters not a jot whether their role is a lead part or a supporting character.  Eager to show off new-found stage skills, their covert waves to parents in the audience become the stuff of cherished family memories when immortalised in snapshots brought out years later in reminiscence.

That is not to say that nativity performance is neer without a hitch - ebullient excitement can often bubble over into inadvertent misdemeanours.  In fact, there is something of an innocent charm about the  moment when the pressure becomes too much for baby Jesus as the newborn actor wails in protest, or the Angel Gabriel stumbles over his lines.  Regardless, the spectacle about the birth of Christ is an experience intrinsic to the festival that bears his name.


MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com






Thursday, December 14, 2017

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS #3 Decorating the House

The 12 Joys of Christmas #3

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS



The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#3 - DECORATING THE HOUSE


Though the tree is the star of the show, the home is the stage upon which to play out Christmas proceedings.  Dressing the set, so to speak, required an approach that takes tradition and style into equal consideration.

As a starting point, gathering foliage from the garden for use in festive decoration is a natural extension of a home's character.  When arms are laden with holly, mistletoe and branches of evergreen, the immediate appeal of spreading Christmas cheer soon translates into fronds of ivy draped across the mantelpiece, or laurel leaves winding their way up olished staircase bannisters.

Drawing inspiration from nature is a much-loved theme at this time of year, and with good reason.  Ornaments in organic forms or pine cones in painted hues echo the natural feel of their origins, whilst the ever-present robin redbreast makes an enchanting appearance as a reminder of the season's religious origins.  Nostalgia gladdens the heart in the form of paper chains, whilst color-wise, shades of carmine and vermillion abound alongside metallic tones including burnished gold, pale bronze and elegant silver, reflected in the flattering half-light from pillar candles arranged in stepped heights at the base of a roaring log fire.


MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com






Wednesday, December 6, 2017

The 12 Joys of Christmas #2

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS



The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#2 - CHOOSING THE TREE


Striding out across a Christmas tree farm, snow crunching underfoot, is undoubtedly one of the simplest pleasures of the festive period.  

Wrapped up against the cold, those who take in these majestic, makeshift coppices are rewarded with the sight of dark-green needles under a blanket of snow.

Where tall and graceful firs may appeal to some, others may prefer more rounded pines.  And whilst a dignified spruce would suit the elegance of a dining room, for the hallway or sitting room and fuller look of a broad-based tree is a pleasing fit.

So, how best to choose a tree?  Seeking a professional outfit or visiting smaller, niche growers, allows for an effective overview.  Firs are, by and large, the most popular Christmas trees, thanks to their frangrance and low needle drop.

Other varieties, such as pines and spruces, are noted for their colour and structure.  

Whatever the tree of choice, be sure to check for freshness.  Tree Grower Associations recommend a tactical running of the hand over any one branch - needles should be flexible and not fall off - then raising the tree a short distance off the ground and dropping it on the end, ensuring that only a few green needles dislodge.  Selecting a tree grown to the best environmental and sustainable practices will ensure longevity, and also help to provide shelter for birds and wildlife whilst growing.


MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com







Friday, December 1, 2017

THE 12 JOYS OF CHRISTMAS



The traditions and rituals of the festive season are a delight at this time of year.  Take inspiration from  ENGLISH HOME MAGAZINE to help magnify the magic of Christmas.

#1


Preparing gifts for their recipients is as enjoyable as the thought that goes into their selection.  Setting aside an afternoon or evening to do so may feel like an extravagance at a time of year when days are short and diaries are full, but the rewards are plentiful.

Wrapping paper aside, attention to detail is everything when it comes to finishing touches.  Banded grosgrain ribbon and stitched border trims offer a classic touch when adorned with glass baubles and natural foliage, whilst silver-and-white tones provide a tasteful palette for experimentation.  Traditionalists may prefer velvet ribbons in Victorian hues.

There is always a pleasing familiarity to be had in winding natural twine around thick brown paper parcels, and attaching springs of holly and dried orange rounds.  


MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com

















Monday, March 13, 2017

Polite Society School of Etiquette

Polite Society School of Etiquette


The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea

Excerpt from book:



Victorian Afternoon Tea
Brief History




An old legend credits the Chinese Emperor Shen Nung in the 28th century B.C. with the discovery of tea.  As the story is told, the health conscious emperor knew that boiling water before drinking seemed to protect people from disease.  He always insisted on having his water boiled and that simple precaution led to a wonderful revelation.  One day while touring the provinces, the emperor stopped for a rest with his entourage.  Servants gathered branches from a nearby evergreen bush to build a fire for boiling the emperor’s water.  A passing wind blew leaves from the bush into the boiling pot and soon a delightful aroma issued forth.  Intrigued, the emperor quickly sipped a bit of the infusion.  He immediately declared that the refreshing brew must have medicinal qualities and ordered his servants to gather leaves from the bush to take back to the palace.

News of the emperor’s discovery spread quickly throughout the provinces.  Soon everyone in China was drinking tea and the infusion of that evergreen plant quickly became an important part of the Chinese culture.  Over the centuries, the knowledge and appreciation of tea gradually spread to other parts of the Orient.

After hundreds of years, tea arrived in England and by 1660 tea was flowing everywhere on the island.  One Samuel Pepys, renowned 17th century diarist, noted in 1660 that he had his very first “cup of tee of which I had never drunk before.”  In 1662, when England’s King Charles II married Portugal’s Princess Catherine of Braganza, part of her dowry was a chest of tea.  It was this queen’s love for tea and her influence on the royal court that influ­enced the spread of the “new drink.”  Tea merchants were soon offering tea as an elixir for just about anything that ailed anyone.  It was first served in public coffeehouses and in outdoor “tea gardens” then increasingly in homes.

Around 1650, Dutch ships carrying the new drink to the Dutch colony of New Amsterdam introduced it to the American colonies.  It took another twenty years for the rest of the colonies to become acquainted with tea, though no one really had any idea of how to use it properly.  Americans would let the tea brew and stew for hours, creating a dark bitter drink.  They also salted and ate the used leaves on buttered bread.  It wasn’t until 1674, when the British took over New Amsterdam and renamed it New York, that the custom of tea drinking as we now know it began.

Tea was enjoyed in the American Colonies until the late 18th century.  But when King George III decided to use tea as a source of revenue, and raised the import tax on tea sent to the Colonies, the independent-minded Americans rebelled.  In 1773 the colonists dressed as Native Americans and dumped a shipload of tea into the Boston Harbor.  This event became known as the Boston Tea Party and was one of many that propelled the colonies toward independence and probably indirectly led to a marked preference for coffee in the United States.

Around 1840, the custom of afternoon tea began in England and is credited to one of Queen Victoria’s ladies-in-waiting, Anna Maria Stanhope, known as the Duchess of Bedford.  In England at the time, people ate a heavy breakfast, a late dinner, and very little in between.  Toward mid afternoon the Duchess routinely experienced a “sinking feeling” which she remedied by dining in her boudoir with tea, cakes, tarts, and biscuits.  Others soon followed the Duchess’ lead and in a few decades the custom of “taking tea” in the afternoon became well established.  At first the practice was limited to the upper classes, but it eventually became so popular that tea shops and tearooms began opening for the enjoyment of the general public.  This elegant custom became greatly popularized during the height of the Victorian Era making “teatime” a regular pastime of the proper English Lady.

By the late 19th century, teatime had acquired its’ own formal etiquette.  Tea services were made of silver or china.  Fine linens were used for tea cloths and serviettes (table napkins).  Tea gowns were loose and flowing with matching hats and gloves.  The tea itself was imported from India or Ceylon (now Sri Lanka), colonies of the British Empire. With the tea came decorated platters of savories (dainty finger sandwiches), scones with jams or homemade preserves and clotted cream, toast with cinnamon, petits fours (small cakes cut from pound or sponge cakes and frosted), and other delicacies that came to be known as “tea food.”  In working class homes, afternoon tea became a much heartier affair with cold meats, cheeses, and breads.  This evening meal was called “high tea” and often replaced dinner.

The United States can claim two distinct contributions when it comes to tea, both dating from the 20th century.  In 1904, visitors to the Louisiana Purchase Exposition in St. Louis sweltered in a heat wave and shunned the hot brew offered by Indian tea growers.  An Englishman named Richard Blechynden, who represented the tea growers, experimented with pouring the tea over ice in order to entice fair visitors.  The result was a success.  Iced tea now accounts for 80 percent of the tea drunk in the United States.  The second contribution is the tea bag, the brainstorm of an American tea merchant named Thomas Sullivan, who hit on the idea of providing samples to his customers in small silk pouches or “a tea leaf holder.” Sullivan’s customers soon discovered that the pouches could be put directly in teapots.  Orders soon came pouring in for the tea packaged in those little bags and Sullivan patented his brainstorm.

Nearly five thousand years have gone by since Emperor Shen Nung sipped the first cup of tea on that Chinese roadside and almost two centuries have elapsed since the Duchess of Bedford first thought of tea and cakes to carry her through until dinnertime.  So much time, yet some things do grow better with age.  Tea can be enjoyed today with a sense of history and a sense of kinship with those who made significant contributions to the development of this lovely pastime.






Enjoy!