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Polite Society School of Étiquette offers a thoughtfully curated collection of courses designed to cultivate grace, confidence, and impeccable poise. The following courses are offered. Beginning Étiquette Course — An introduction to the essential principles of etiquette, gracious manners, and confident social interaction. Afternoon Tea Étiquette Course — An elegant exploration of afternoon tea traditions, tea-table etiquette, and the art of hosting and participating in this cherished ritual. Protocol, Decorum, & Savoir-Faire Course — A study of refined conduct, formal protocol, and the discernment required to navigate social and professional settings with confidence. The Story of Tea Course — A captivating journey through the history, culture, and traditions of tea, celebrating its enduring influence on societies around the world. Étiquette tutelage is also offered through speaking engagements, instructional webinars, school seminars, private dinners, and specialty tea events. The School's mission is to educate both adults and children in the traditional principles of etiquette and the essential social skills needed for everyday life. The curriculum encompasses the history of etiquette, social graces, dining etiquette, proper table settings, appropriate attire, protocol, decorum, and other valuable etiquette practices. Students also learn the art and essentials of preparing and serving a proper Afternoon Tea. Polite Society School of Étiquette provides students with the knowledge and skills to navigate the expectations of society with grace, poise, and confidence, empowering them to feel comfortable and self-assured in any social situation. All courses include foods and beverages as teaching aids. Interactive online training courses are available.

Saturday, January 20, 2018

TEA TRADITIONS.....Tea promotes wellness...

TEA AND HEALTH



Tea continues to be used to promote overall health and wellness in traditional Chinese medicine, and is believed to boost vitality and longevity.  Contemporary research offers evidence of tea's benefits for a variety of health concerns, ranging from weight loss to heart fitness to anxiety reduction.

An integral part of Chinese culture, today tea is enjoyed by the general populace, but it was not until the Tang dynasty, which spanned from 618 to 907, that an appreciation for tea widened beyond aristocratic and monastic circles.  The monk and tea master Lu Yu, who lived from 733 to 804, published a treatise on tea entitled Ch'a Ching, or The Classic of Tea.  His widely read book held universal appeal, describing the benefits of the beverage, as well as more practical information, such as preparation, utensils, and different types of tea.

Lu Yu wrote about the traditional tea ceremony in a way that blended the teachings of spiritual wisdom and celebrated harmony, unity, and simplicity.  An excerpt from the book reads, "The effect of tea is cooling and as a beverage, it is most suitable.  It is especially fitting for persons of self-restraint and inner worth.  Tea tempers the spirits and harmonizes the mind, dispels lassitude and relieves fatigue, awakens thought and prevents drowsiness, lightens or refreshes the body, and clears the perceptive faculties."

The Classic of Tea played a significant role in bringing the knowledge, customs, and practices of tea to a wider swath of China, but it could be said that tea itself is deserving of the credit for such widespread appreciation as it continues to enjoy, these many thousands of years later.  It is a beverage that seems to transcend time and culture, bringing comfort and encouraging reflective moments of solace to all who savor it.

Credit to Victoria Classics.

NEW ONLINE TEA ETIQUETTE TRAINING AVAILABLE!


Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

             Authored Books:                
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com



Tuesday, January 9, 2018

TEA TRADITIONS....The Art and Practice of Drinking Tea

The Art and Practice of drinking tea...

has its origins in thousands of years of history.  That people the world over continue not only to drink but also to honor it through ceremonies and customs speaks to the timeless qualities of this comforting beverage.


Victoria Classics shares, "The enjoyment of tea," as being one of modern civilization's most sublime pleasures, while the ceremonies that surround the beloved brew are embedded in the very cornerstones of tradition.

Opening one's home to friends and strangers alike and welcoming them with food and beverage has long been anexpression of hospitality in many cultures across the globe.

Although it is commonly understood that the British elevated the taking of tea to its once and again place of prominence in polite society, istory reveals that tea parties were a popular pastime in Europe and in the American colonies for almost a century before becoming the high fashion of England's aristocracy.

The Dutch were among the first Eiuropeans not only to widely consume tea but also to serve it with dainty cakes and other delicious morsels in a convivial setting of friends, flowers elegant apparel, and cultured conversation.  The English expanded tea party menus, adding a savories course, as well as a patina of refinement to the overall presentation.

But a far earlier practice draws on Chinese lore, which attributes the discovery of tea to Emperor Shen Long five thousand years ago.  According to legend, the emperor, being possessed of a scientific mind, would boil his drinking water.  When a leaf from a nearby plant in the garden drifted into his pot one day and lent its infusion to the hot water, he found, upon drinking it, a pleasant flavor.  His enjoyment was such that he researched the beverage and discovered its medicinal properties-an attribute for which it is still known.

more on the next blog......

Please let me know if you enjoy my blogs by commenting on my blog.  Thank you so very much.


NEW ONLINE TEA ETIQUETTE TRAINING AVAILABLE!


Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                Authored Books:                
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com




Thursday, January 4, 2018

TEA PLEASURES..... Dear Friends

TEA PLEASURES....




The art and practice of drinking tea has its origins in thousands of years of history.  People all over the world continue not only to drink but also to honor it through ceremonies and customs speaks to the timeless qualities of this comforting beverage.


Victorian Afternoon Tea

Brief History

An old legend credits the Chinese Emperor Shen Nung in the 28th century B.C. with the discovery of tea.  As the story is told, the health conscious emperor knew that boiling water before drinking seemed to protect people from disease.  He always insisted on having his water boiled and that simple precaution led to a wonderful revelation.  One day while touring the provinces, the emperor stopped for a rest with his entourage.  Servants gathered branches from a nearby evergreen bush to build a fire for boiling the emperor’s water.  A passing wind blew leaves from the bush into the boiling pot and soon a delightful aroma issued forth.  Intrigued, the emperor quickly sipped a bit of the infusion.  He immediately declared that the refreshing brew must have medicinal qualities and ordered his servants to gather leaves from the bush to take back to the palace.

News of the emperor’s discovery spread quickly throughout the provinces.  Soon everyone in China was drinking tea and the infusion of that evergreen plant quickly became an important part of the Chinese culture.  Over the centuries, the knowledge and appreciation of tea gradually spread to other parts of the Orient.

After hundreds of years, tea arrived in England and by 1660 tea was flowing everywhere on the island.  One Samuel Pepys, renowned 17th century diarist, noted in 1660 that he had his very first “cup of tee of which I had never drunk before.”  In 1662, when England’s King Charles II married Portugal’s Princess Catherine of Braganza, part of her dowry was a chest of tea.  It was this queen’s love for tea and her influence on the royal court that influ­enced the spread of the “new drink.”  Tea merchants were soon offering tea as an elixir for just about anything that ailed anyone.  It was first served in public coffeehouses and in outdoor “tea gardens” then increasingly in homes.

Around 1650, Dutch ships carrying the new drink to the Dutch colony of New Amsterdam introduced it to the American colonies.  It took another twenty years for the rest of the colonies to become acquainted with tea, though no one really had any idea of how to use it properly.  Americans would let the tea brew and stew for hours, creating a dark bitter drink.  They also salted and ate the used leaves on buttered bread.  It wasn’t until 1674, when the British took over New Amsterdam and renamed it New York, that the custom of tea drinking as we now know it began.

Tea was enjoyed in the American Colonies until the late 18th century.  But when King George III decided to use tea as a source of revenue, and raised the import tax on tea sent to the Colonies, the independent-minded Americans rebelled.  In 1773 the colonists dressed as Native Americans and dumped a shipload of tea into the Boston Harbor.  This event became known as the Boston Tea Party and was one of many that propelled the colonies toward independence and probably indirectly led to a marked preference for coffee in the United States.

Around 1840, the custom of afternoon tea began in England and is credited to one of Queen Victoria’s ladies-in-waiting, Anna Maria Stanhope, known as the Duchess of Bedford.  In England at the time, people ate a heavy breakfast, a late dinner, and very little in between.  Toward mid afternoon the Duchess routinely experienced a “sinking feeling” which she remedied by dining in her boudoir with tea, cakes, tarts, and biscuits.  Others soon followed the Duchess’ lead and in a few decades the custom of “taking tea” in the afternoon became well established.  At first the practice was limited to the upper classes, but it eventually became so popular that tea shops and tearooms began opening for the enjoyment of the general public.  This elegant custom became greatly popularized during the height of the Victorian Era making “teatime” a regular pastime of the proper English Lady.

By the late 19th century, teatime had acquired its’ own formal etiquette.  Tea services were made of silver or china.  Fine linens were used for tea cloths and serviettes (table napkins).  Tea gowns were loose and flowing with matching hats and gloves.  The tea itself was imported from India or Ceylon (now Sri Lanka), colonies of the British Empire. With the tea came decorated platters of savories (dainty finger sandwiches), scones with jams or homemade preserves and clotted cream, toast with cinnamon, petits fours (small cakes cut from pound or sponge cakes and frosted), and other delicacies that came to be known as “tea food.”  In working class homes, afternoon tea became a much heartier affair with cold meats, cheeses, and breads.  This evening meal was called “high tea” and often replaced dinner.

The United States can claim two distinct contributions when it comes to tea, both dating from the 20th century.  In 1904, visitors to the Louisiana Purchase Exposition in St. Louis sweltered in a heat wave and shunned the hot brew offered by Indian tea growers.  An Englishman named Richard Blechynden, who represented the tea growers, experimented with pouring the tea over ice in order to entice fair visitors.  The result was a success.  Iced tea now accounts for 80 percent of the tea drunk in the United States.  The second contribution is the tea bag, the brainstorm of an American tea merchant named Thomas Sullivan, who hit on the idea of providing samples to his customers in small silk pouches or “a tea leaf holder.” Sullivan’s customers soon discovered that the pouches could be put directly in teapots.  Orders soon came pouring in for the tea packaged in those little bags and Sullivan patented his brainstorm.

Nearly five thousand years have gone by since Emperor Shen Nung sipped the first cup of tea on that Chinese roadside and almost two centuries have elapsed since the Duchess of Bedford first thought of tea and cakes to carry her through until dinnertime.  So much time, yet some things do grow better with age.  Tea can be enjoyed today with a sense of history and a sense of kinship with those who made significant contributions to the development of this lovely pastime.



NEW ONLINE TEA ETIQUETTE TRAINING AVAILABLE!


Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

Authored Books                 
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com






Monday, January 1, 2018

TEA PLEASURES...Dear Friends




Whether you are a teaatime novice or have a long-standing trdition of hosting teas, I think you will find the following information very useful.  An invitation to tea presents an opportunity for guests to enjoy companionable conversation while following the age-old practice of sipping a beverage steeped from the leaves of the Camellia sinensis plant.  

I enjoy having one or two friends drop by midmorning for just-baked scones and a bracing cup of English Breakfast or Earl Grey.  For a larger group and a more formal prsentation, I bring out my mismatched English bone china cups and saucers, which I have been collecting for many years, my favorite teapots along with antique table linens.

Most tearooms serve a scone, three savories, and about three sweets for afternoon tea.  I like serving fruit also.  

Remember:  enjoying tea seems to require that we slow down and treasure the moments spent scooping up the leaves, timing the brewing, and sipping the warmth of the beverage.  My book, The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea, will take you through many guidelines to hosting a formal tea along with hosting a simple tea for two.

I hope you enjoy my future blogs that will take you through tea pleasures!  

I appreciate any feedback!...




Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author of:                  
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com




Thursday, December 28, 2017



TEA ESSENTIALS FOR THE NEW YEAR!


Let's start from the very beginning as I take you through the world of tea!

Tea traditions and the art and practice of drinking tea has its origins in thousands of years of history.  That people the world over continue not only to drink but also to honor it through ceremonies and customs speaks to the timeless qualities of this comforting beverage.

With the table set and fragrant flowers arranged in vases, all the pieces are in place for a lovely gathering.  From brewing the perfect blend to setting the menu, careful planning ensures a memorable teatime experience.

Let's start with some history:

Victorian Afternoon Tea
Brief History
An old legend credits the Chinese Emperor Shen Nung in the 28th century B.C. with the
discovery of tea. As the story is told, the health conscious emperor knew that boiling
water before drinking seemed to protect people from disease. He always insisted on
having his water boiled and that simple precaution led to a wonderful revelation. One
day while touring the provinces, the emperor stopped for a rest with his entourage.
Servants gathered branches from a nearby evergreen bush to build a fire for boiling the
emperor’s water. A passing wind blew leaves from the bush into the boiling pot and soon
a delightful aroma issued forth. Intrigued, the emperor quickly sipped a bit of the
infusion. He immediately declared that the refreshing brew must have medicinal
qualities and ordered his servants to gather leaves from the bush to take back to the
palace.

News of the emperor’s discovery spread quickly throughout the provinces. Soon
everyone in China was drinking tea and the infusion of that evergreen plant quickly
became an important part of the Chinese culture. Over the centuries, the knowledge and
appreciation of tea gradually spread to other parts of the Orient.

After hundreds of years, tea arrived in England and by 1660 tea was flowing everywhere
on the island. One Samuel Pepys, renowned 17th century diarist, noted in 1660 that he
had his very first “cup of tee of which I had never drunk before.” In 1662, when
England’s King Charles II married Portugal’s Princess Catherine of Braganza, part of her
dowry was a chest of tea. It was this queen’s love for tea and her influence on the royal
court that influenced the spread of the “new drink.” Tea merchants were soon offering
tea as an elixir for just about anything that ailed anyone. It was first served in public
coffeehouses and in outdoor “tea gardens” then increasingly in homes.

Around 1650, Dutch ships carrying the new drink to the Dutch colony of New
Amsterdam introduced it to the American colonies. It took another twenty years for the
rest of the colonies to become acquainted with tea, though no one really had any idea of
how to use it properly. Americans would let the tea brew and stew for hours, creating a
dark bitter drink. They also salted and ate the used leaves on buttered bread. It wasn’t
until 1674, when the British took over New Amsterdam and renamed it New York, that
the custom of tea drinking as we now know it began.

Tea was enjoyed in the American Colonies until the late 18th century. But when King
George III decided to use tea as a source of revenue, and raised the import tax on tea sent
to the Colonies, the independent-minded Americans rebelled. In 1773 the colonists
dressed as Native Americans and dumped a shipload of tea into the Boston Harbor. This
event became known as the Boston Tea Party and was one of many that propelled the
colonies toward independence and probably indirectly led to a marked preference for
coffee in the United States.

Around 1840, the custom of afternoon tea began in England and is credited to one of
Queen Victoria’s ladies-in-waiting, Anna Maria Stanhope, known as the Duchess of
Bedford. In England at the time, people ate a heavy breakfast, a late dinner, and very
little in between. Toward mid afternoon the Duchess routinely experienced a “sinking
feeling” which she remedied by dining in her boudoir with tea, cakes, tarts, and biscuits.
Others soon followed the Duchess’ lead and in a few decades the custom of “taking tea”
in the afternoon became well established. At first the practice was limited to the upper
classes, but it eventually became so popular that tea shops and tearooms began opening
for the enjoyment of the general public. This elegant custom became greatly popularized
during the height of the Victorian Era making “teatime” a regular pastime of the proper
English Lady.

By the late 19th century, teatime had acquired its’ own formal etiquette. Tea services
were made of silver or china. Fine linens were used for tea cloths and serviettes (table
napkins). Tea gowns were loose and flowing with matching hats and gloves. The tea
itself was imported from India or Ceylon (now Sri Lanka), colonies of the British Empire.
With the tea came decorated platters of savories (dainty finger sandwiches), scones with
jams or homemade preserves and clotted cream, toast with cinnamon, petits fours (small
cakes cut from pound or sponge cakes and frosted), and other delicacies that came to be
known as “tea food.” In working class homes, afternoon tea became a much heartier
affair with cold meats, cheeses, and breads. This evening meal was called “high tea” and
often replaced dinner.

The United States can claim two distinct contributions when it comes to tea, both dating
from the 20th century. In 1904, visitors to the Louisiana Purchase Exposition in St. Louis
sweltered in a heat wave and shunned the hot brew offered by Indian tea growers. An
Englishman named Richard Blechynden, who represented the tea growers, experimented
with pouring the tea over ice in order to entice fair visitors. The result was a success.
Iced tea now accounts for 80 percent of the tea drunk in the United States. The second
contribution is the tea bag, the brainstorm of an American tea merchant named Thomas
Sullivan, who hit on the idea of providing samples to his customers in small silk pouches
or “a tea leaf holder.” Sullivan’s customers soon discovered that the pouches could be put
directly in teapots. Orders soon came pouring in for the tea packaged in those little bags
and Sullivan patented his brainstorm.

Nearly five thousand years have gone by since Emperor Shen Nung sipped the first cup
of tea on that Chinese roadside and almost two centuries have elapsed since the Duchess
of Bedford first thought of tea and cakes to carry her through until dinnertime. So much
time, yet some things do grow better with age. Tea can be enjoyed today with a sense of
history and a sense of kinship with those who made significant contributions to the
development of this lovely pastime.




HAPPY NEW YEAR!:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com




Friday, December 22, 2017

GREAT ETIQUETTE BOOKS FOR CHRISTMAS

CHRISTMAS GIFT IDEAS




AND FOR THE CHILDREN




MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:  PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:  PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com




Thursday, December 21, 2017

Featured in Tea Time Magazine!

TEA TIME MAGAZINE


Featured in Tea Time Magazine
November/December Issue


I am thrilled to be a part of Tea Time Magazine.  Each time I recive my magazine in the mail, I sit with a cup of tea and enjoy all of the fabulous articles.  

A special thank you to Ms. Lorna Reeves, Editor, Ms. Betty Terry, Associate Editor, and of course the darling Brian Hoffman, CCO!

An incredible group to work with.



MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM:

Ms. Bernadette M. Petrotta
Founder & Director
Polite Society School of Etiquette

                       Author
The Art of the Social Graces
The Art and Proper Etiquette of Afternoon Tea
EMMA The Etiquette Cat: Meet Emma

Website:  PoliteSocietySchool.com
Email:     PoliteSocietySchool@Whidbey.com
Blog:       PoliteSocietySchool.blogspot.com